I think largely in a way yes. I think that by far most mature people want to have a fair and open discussion about what they are being accused of when they themselves can not see the validity of the actuation matching any defined rule or agreement and "Because I said so." is not a valid answer for most.So, primarily, you had a problem of transparency of actions and decisions.
I think we do pretty good on that sector around here.
"Because I said so." is not a reason that most technical minded people will settle for and blindly accept. It may be a valid reason for bureaucrats politicians and the like but for the technical how and why crowd it's little more than a insult.
The fact you have let me and others go this far with a topic like this is already and impressive enough show of openness and willing to listen.
Sure! I will be flying off to Turkey next week to be there for a month so I will have a good deal of time away from everyone online more than likely. My wife and I are flying over to get her daughter and bring her home.Tell you what. Hang around here for a couple of months and see how things work. You may find that some of the problems you worry about may be already solved here. Or not. But give it some time.
I would love both of you to revive this thread in two months' time and give us a review.