This part really sticks in my craw. Your wife wants to make you happy by destroying your family, that which you have the highest part of your investment, dedication, and love attached. This is the definition of bat-s7!t crazy.

Preaching a fellow quire member here too.

My Ex was on the same game plan as well. Make Me give up everything I worked my life to acquire and achieve so that I could 'Become a better person' by changing into someone I don't like with goals I do not place any value in.

 

Make Me give up everything I worked my life to acquire and achieve so that I could 'Become a better person' by changing into someone I don't like with goals I do not place any value in.

I have long suspected the thought process at the wedding alter goes like this:
(Man) Finally I have something stable in my life.
(Woman) Finally I can get serious about changing him.

Edit: I think that's, "altar" instead of, "alter".
Darned homophones.

 

I have long suspected the thought process at the wedding alter goes like this:
(Man) Finally I have something stable in my life.
(Woman) Finally I can get serious about changing him.

I don't remember where I heard this, but it stuck...

A man gets married hoping the woman will never change, but women always change. A woman gets married hoping to change a man, but men never change.

 

I don't remember where I heard this, but it stuck...

That's the difference between my vague suspicion and somebody who invested the time to think about it.

As for this Thread, it served my purpose, which was to post a theory about how anybody could believe an air conditioner has any intent besides making cooler air. The woman seems insane, but how she got there was a complete disconnect for me until I found this white noise theory. It makes me grateful that my mind doesn't work that way!

 

As for this Thread, it served my purpose, which was to post a theory about how anybody could believe an air conditioner has any intent besides making cooler air. The woman seems insane, but how she got there was a complete disconnect for me until I found this white noise theory. It makes me grateful that my mind doesn't work that way!

It's okay. plowing snow is now sexist too, apparently. The feminists don't like it for various, and largely not understood by rational minds, reasonings.

 

TL;DR
A stranger moniker than mine.
And another case of white noise feminism. The whole city can wait for my day care center to be cleared, even though I can't get there because the main roads haven't been cleared.
These feminists can act totally nucking futs!
ME ME ME!

 

And another case of white noise feminism. The whole city can wait for my day care center to be cleared, even though I can't get there because the main roads haven't been cleared.
These feminists can act totally nucking futs!

My reply to them is the same as I would have given my Ex when she had an equally and totally irrational demand.

If you want it done your way learn to drive a snowplow and start doing the job yourself. I guarantee I will give you 100% of my support if you do.

 

If you want it done your way learn to drive a snowplow

The problem with that is the use of government to act as their overindulgent Daddy. They want tax dollars to cater to their every whim, and government employees act like most husbands: Anything to get them to shut up.

Of course, it is phrased as, "Anything to get votes." but the results are the same. Practical behavior takes a back seat to white noise equality.

You know I'm the local poster child for pragmatism, so you already knew my opinion.

 

Too funny and too real.

 

I know this is a male dominated forum, but please do not let this thread degrade to women bashing... This is more degrading to you as men than it is to women.

Thank you

And remember if you will - "women are crazy, men are stupid" is as good a generalization as any I have seen above

 

tcmtech said: ↑
If you want it done your way learn to drive a snowplow

So, my wives all of them have their own way of folding towel, so when asked to fold them I would always screw it up by folding it the way my Ex did, this done on purpose so when they asked why I always fold them incorrectly I would let them know I've already been pre-programmed and that I can't follow a straight pattern they want, if you want it done correctly do it yourself and never ask me again.

However, if I got more sex per week you might be able to condition me like they did.

kv

 

So, my wives all of them have their own way of folding towel, so when asked to fold them I would always screw it up by folding it the way my Ex did, this done on purpose so when they asked why I always fold them incorrectly I would let them know I've already been pre-programmed and that I can't follow a straight pattern they want, if you want it done correctly do it yourself and never ask me again.

Yep. Same laundry issue here as well. In my views laundry is at most a 9 step process.

When any laundry baskets are full,

1. Dump one in washer (when remembered).
2. Add detergent.
3. Press start button.
4. Go do something else for at least an hour.
5. Move wet clothes to dryer.(when remembered)
6. Clean out lint trap from last time.
7. Push start button.
8. Go do something else for at least an hour.
9. Put clean clothes away. (optional or when remembered)

My Ex however somehow made all of that into so much more plus a huge time consuming ordeal being that every step had to be monitored constantly 'just-in-case' thus eliminating the multitasking opportunity that both 'go do something else for at least an hour ' steps open up.

Today the whole house got a top to bottom cleaning and even with setting my usual slacker pace of 50% sort of doing something related to cleaning and 50% not remotely related to cleaning I have still managed to knock out a full house detailed vacuuming, half the house scrubbed down and mopped, changed and washed bedding (kitty beds and furniture covers too) and have so far done 4 loads of wash in less than 6 hours.

I still have the kitchen to do a good wipe down and dish clean up and the entryway needs vacuuming plus one more load of laundry to do yet too, but I should have that done in the next two hours or less (if I don't start watching a movie instead). If not it will get knocked out tomorrow some time.

In the days of my Ex this was at minimal a 8 hour nonstop 1 1/2 person job (even when half of it didn't need doing) and none of it could be spread out and handled a bit at a time during the week (what I normally do unless it's deep cleaning like today because I have been gone more than home for the last month) for reasons I never understood.

 

My wife has MS, her brain doesn't function correctly, she has scar tissue and she will forget what she started the Doctors gave her some new meds that will give her more focus, energy, and deal with her depression. It doesn't help she had high blood pressure that she couldn't afford before we got married, so I think mainly hers is just Medical issues. Typically she starts the dishes and puts them in the rack, I can't stand to see dishes out so I put them away which makes for a good team, she use to start the washer and I would put them in the dryer then she would hang them, but she doesn't and can't understand my system I do my own laundry now.

"All " hangers face open side to the rear, I also hang my shirts back on the hanger at the end of the day and they hang from the outside off a hangers end you know their dirty. When the shirt is hung it has to have the logo facing the hall and all my black T-shirts with pockets the same, all my shirts are black or black and grey, University Logo first and weekend T-shirts next, dress shirts next and last slacks, any jackets go in the closet closest to the outside door, don't get me started on my dresser, I say move my Sh*t, number one I will know, second you'll freak me out someone moved my Sh*t. Drives me nuts when I can't find anything systems are the only way to go, you don't even have to think about it it's automatic.

kv

 

"All " hangers face open side to the rear,

You must be some flavor of OCD.
I have methods, but mine are more like: Everything belongs in a category.
Residential plumbing, light electrical, heavy electrical, lawn and garden, door and window parts...
Drills and drill bits, tools that only fit cars and trucks, tools that only do plumbing, saws, Allen wrenches, socket wrenches...
About 3 years ago, I put my wood chisels in the bucket for wet&dry vac attachments and couldn't find them for 5 months.
But, the last time I had a wife, she knew not to move my tools.

The rule for putting things away: "Where would I look for this if I needed it?"

 

The rule for putting things away: "Where would I look for this if I needed it?"

I find that this one can be hit and miss. I suspect it's because in many instances there are multiple reasonable answers but, at any given time, my mind tends to pick one according to some heuristic that I can't fathom and I get fixated on that being the only obvious answer.

What I find REALLY maddening is I will have something that has been sitting in the WRONG place for years and when I need it I will use it, usually by going to where it is, picking it up, using it, and setting it back down. Even if I take it somewhere else I will tend to put it back where I found it. This system, as patently offensive to the senses that it is, works. But, of course, eventually I will get tired of it sitting in the wrong place and I will put it where it "obviously belongs". Then the next time I need it (in some cases the next day) I go to where I have grown accustomed to finding it and, not finding it there, I will recall "putting it away" and go to where it "obviously belongs".

My mood usually deteriorates rapidly from there.

I often end up going into town to buy another one of the damn things because I really need it and can't find it. Then, of course, I will stumble across the original a few days later (sometimes that afternoon) and, seeing where it is, I will recall putting it there and why it is where it "obviously belongs". It will be so obvious that that is where it "obviously belongs" that I will put the new one right next to it.

Guess what happens the next time I need it?

Yep, eventually there are three of them sitting where it "obviously belongs".

Of course, all (well, most) of this could be avoided by simply investing the time to truly organize things and, even better, making true consolidated tool kits -- which really, really, really would save time and money in short order.

 

You must be some flavor of OCD.
I have methods, but mine are more like: Everything belongs in a category.
Residential plumbing, light electrical, heavy electrical, lawn and garden, door and window parts...
Drills and drill bits, tools that only fit cars and trucks, tools that only do plumbing, saws, Allen wrenches, socket wrenches...
About 3 years ago, I put my wood chisels in the bucket for wet&dry vac attachments and couldn't find them for 5 months.
But, the last time I had a wife, she knew not to move my tools.

The rule for putting things away: "Where would I look for this if I needed it?"

I have it worse when it comes to my tools, I have woodworking toolbox, Plumbing Box, GP Toolbox, Saws, Level, etc. Same OCD. I'm not at all yet able to put my electronic parts correctly but am working on it, purchased a cheap bin thats not adequate. I will have my own study when I sell this little house and move to my fathers almost double the size of my current working area really looking forward to it. I'm going to build a 20x20 shop and put in a furnace. It will warehouse everything the way I need it organized the Garage now is so small you can't even get out of your car, made for a Model - T.

Yes, If someone touches my tools they die or wish they were dead after my V-Bomb drops. (V means Verbal)

Ah yes order,

kv

Edit: I'm so bad I put things back in their box to go on the shelf, do the same thing at work, it was the only way I could keep track of my parts in my Van or with Sears. They loaded me up with 50k in parts from mowers to refrigerators the only thing I didn't work on was TV's, but always wanted to know how the mystery little circuits works.

Now I know, Magic Smoke

 

Preaching a fellow quire member here too.

So you were three (four) sheets to the wind??
Max.

 

So you were three (four) sheets to the wind??
Max.

You did a no no.

 

So you were three (four) sheets to the wind??

Not that I am aware of... ?

But the Ex was a pretty nice person when she had a few shots of alcohol in her. (and a good nap too!)

 

I will put it where it "obviously belongs". Then the next time I need it (in some cases the next day) I go to where I have grown accustomed to finding it and, not finding it there, I will recall "putting it away" and go to where it "obviously belongs".

One of the worst things I do is put something in a, "special" place so I, "can't possibly miss it".
That never works. It can take me hours to find the special place.
The best thing for me is to put it back where it belongs, with similar things. Then I will be able to find it.
If I think I need a special reminder, that's what a pencil and paper is for. You will always find a scrap of paper in my back pocket when I go to the grocery store. That's how I remember to buy non-food items, like soap, vitamin pills, or wet-wipes. Without that list, I'm on auto-pilot, a brain-free zone. Probably part of getting old.

A, "last resort" is, "Just start the job. The odd tool I can't find is probably in the box with the parts for the job."