I have run across a theory to explain why Air Conditioning is Sexist. This video is way too long so I point you to the time frame 23:30 to 27:00 minutes. That's 3.5 minutes, but it is entirely useful if you click on the gear symbol and place the speed setting at 1.25 times real time speed and cut your exposure to 2.8 minutes.

If you have too much time on your hands, you can watch the whole thing, but I find the early Dog anthropomorphism irrelevant and I didn't watch anything after the 27 minute mark. Whether you end up educated or amused is entirely up to you.

 

"why Air Conditioning is Sexist. "

Yea I didn't have to watch the video to think to myself. What!

 

Somebody posted the original complaint by a woman in one of my Air Conditioning Threads and I had no clue that she was YouTube known for her amazing statements. I guess that was about a month ago and I accidentally found this video which seems to explain how some people can actually believe an inanimate object has intent to harm them.

I have had moments when I thought my socket wrench, or the bolt that busted off, intended to harm me, but I had bleeding knuckles at the time and probably a mild and temporary dose of pain induced insanity. I think I have seen some golfers suffer momentary insanity, too.

This woman is in a constant state of believing air conditioners have intent. The idea that a cool breeze (which most people welcome) could cause one person harm, and intend to harm her, was beyond my ability to imagine. The video in post #1 provides a possible thought process to arrive at that condition, but I'm still not sure it isn't a form of mental illness. The narrator said, "female cascade of paranoia" and paranoia might not be a mental illness, but it is a symptom.

Still learning: You can search for, "Air Conditioners are Sexist" and get 812 returns on YouTube.
By that method I found the original video:

This is the kind of thing that makes me happy I got out of the business 3 years ago!

 

Jackets in the office are optional, you know, for if you feel cold. I guess if that's not good enough we can set the thermostat to 78 and make shirts optional. That would be less sexist for sure, since it would put the onus on men to make an optional wardrobe change.

 

it would pit the onus on men

There is a theory that Feminism advocates that solution for almost all female problems.

 

For some the civilized world has literally ran out of real life threatening concerns to keep their minds occupied and thus their survival/confrontation resolution instinct is defaulting to making a lot out of nothing in order to fill in the void in real threat input.

My Ex had that issue. I had life set up to be too easy, simple and unthreatening for her to handle and thusly everything wrong, by her perceptions, that wasn't had to somehow be my fault since I was obviously the key orchestrator of all that easy, simple unthreatening lifestyle we had.

And yes, the house thermostat was also a real issue too. The old analog one was 'never accurate enough' (forever too hot/too cold no matter how/where it was set) and the digital one was 'too accurate to blame' for her ever changing perceptions of what the actual temperature of the house was, thusly forcing her to have to accept it was her who had the house temperature perception issue and not the HVAC system being buggy. (somehow still my fault anyway.)

The only solution was for her to wall herself off in a room with a window open and a electric heater on high plus the house air conditioning set to arctic winter (with the vent closed anyway).

 

I have run across a theory to explain why Air Conditioning is Sexist. This video is way too long so I point you to the time frame 23:30 to 27:00 minutes. That's 3.5 minutes, but it is entirely useful if you click on the gear symbol and place the speed setting at 1.25 times real time speed and cut your exposure to 2.8 minutes.

If you have too much time on your hands, you can watch the whole thing, but I find the early Dog anthropomorphism irrelevant and I didn't watch anything after the 27 minute mark. Whether you end up educated or amused is entirely up to you.

Thats why I'm an advocate of Zone controls, what I think I like as well is when I go to home depots and the Radiant Heat that warms you rather than the environment. I worked in an older building, the women would call the heat plant setting the temperature higher, which would boil me out of my office, I was connected to 3 separate spaces, plus they had floor heaters and sweaters.

I complained so many times until my Senior Director came to my office one day in an effort to get away from the Administrative Secretary's constant chattering, the next day we had a crew of people in my office measuring the temp 109˚F. They removed me from those rooms attached to those females offices, then connected me to a room with a new Air-Conditioning system, the problem was partially equipment in the room even in winter no need for heat, the need was for a constant flow of cool air.

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For some, the civilized world has literally run out of real, life threatening concerns to keep their minds occupied, and thus their survival/confrontation/resolution instinct is defaulting to making a lot out of nothing in order to fill in the void in real threat input.

That's what the video said in a very long and roundabout way. I'm happy that you understood it. As for the female in your house? She made problems out of nothing until she wasn't there. That's exactly what happened at my house. There is so little to do here without a woman to need all the time that I am constantly bored. When other people come at me with the shaming language about not supporting a woman, I just say, "I cherish the silence."

I still have a sister, and she is presently in a 2 week long emotional crisis about why her son asked what time she usually eats supper. Here is most of her latest e-mail to me:

"I guess I am really stupid. I just could not understand why Mike asked me
what time I ate if he did not give a damn or need to know in order to
arrange his schedule.

I also did not realize I was having an "emotional episode" by not crying,
yelling, screaming, throwing things or shooting anyone.

I mistakenly thought you might understand since you are male and have
spent much more time with him than I have in the last several years.
Obviously I was mistaken."

Nothing came of it because she eats at 5 PM and he gets off work at 6 PM. That's the problem: Nothing came of it. There is no problem. The female response to, "there is no problem" is weeks of emotional distress, interstate consultations, and shaming me, 800 miles away, because an idea formed, a question was asked, and nothing happened. OMG! Nothing happened!!!

Just goes to show, you don't have to sleep with a woman to start the shaming and blaming.

There is another video complaining that Air Conditioner Theory is based on 1960's beliefs and the metabolism of men. Of course it is. That's how we design to make sure there is at least enough cooling capacity. Then we install a thermostat so the Air Conditioner can be controlled. The problem is that the air conditioner can be controlled, and that requires someone to make a decision and accept that the results of their decision is caused by their decision.

I cherish the silence.

 

That's what the video said in a very long and roundabout way. I'm happy that you understood it. As for the female in your house? She made problems out of nothing until she wasn't there. That's exactly what happened at my house. There is so little to do here without a woman to need all the time that I am constantly bored. When other people come at me with the shaming language about not supporting a woman, I just say, "I cherish the silence."

Yep, had many strange conversation about 'what do I need a woman for?' that ended with. Nothing really since I am willing to do my own work when need be.

If you're in a relationship to the point of marriage and raising a kid (or several) and still don't see what your purpose is in things the odds are it's not the other person's perceptions of reality that are the problem.

I gave her the right to pick and choose responsibility over anything she wanted and all I asked for was that she showed a greater capacity to handle those things as equally poorly as myself or better.

If you don't like how I cook that's fine. You cook and I will pay for the groceries.
If you don't like how I drive that fine too. You drive and will supply the vehicle and fuel.
If you don't like what I do for a living that's fine. You find me a better job that can do and I will like and I will go there.
If you don't like how I the laundry that's fine too. I will buy you a new washer and dryer set but I expect my cloths to be done when I need them.
If you don't like that I don't help around the house that fine as well. just stop standing in my way of helping.
If you don't like me for who I am, because I was happy with who I am and where I was before we met, you should have thought that out before getting into a relationship with me.

But then I openly admit I understand HVAC system isuses way better than female ones.

 

I openly admit I understand HVAC system issues way better than female ones.

Me too.
However, YouTube has allowed me to search about female psychology, behavior, and motivations. It's pretty cynical to say the least. That doesn't cause me any personal problems because I gave up on women after 2 adulterous wives and a full blown, burst into flames, Borderline Personality Disorder girlfriend. Now I have a better understanding of why quitting entirely worked so well.

When I said it's boring here, I confessed that there is zero threat level, unless you count the threat of being bored. The white noise of, "no threat detectable" seems to turn their automatic gain control (AGC) all the way up. I used to call it, "chronically dissatisfied". Now I see that there is more than one cause, but dissatisfaction is inevitable when there are no threats. If all they did was complain about the air conditioner, I would stand a chance of fixing it, but you can see in post #8 a woman can agonize for weeks about somebody asking what time supper is usually served. I understand it, and that comforts me. I can't fix it and I finally understand why women don't want it fixed. Making a woman's world nothing but peaches and cream turns up their AGC to the point where they start believing appliances have intent to harm them.

A woman without challenges to overcome will create challenges out of thin air (or thin air conditioning). When I am the most convenient point of focus, it will appear to be about me. I don't like that. I don't like stress. I am allergic to Adrenalin. I made my life safe and secure because that's how I want to live. That method deprives a woman of one of her essential needs, problems to solve. Thus, my nature is incompatible with women. That's OK with me. I cherish the silence.

 

A woman without challenges to overcome will create challenges out of thin air (or thin air conditioning). When I am the most convenient point of focus, it will appear to be about me. I don't like that. I don't like stress. I am allergic to Adrenalin.

Adrenalin I don't mind, so long as it's "good" adrenalin; it's drama I'm allergic to. Am now living a drama-free life, and lovin' it.

I made my life safe and secure because that's how I want to live. That method deprives a woman of one of her essential needs, problems to solve. Thus, my nature is incompatible with women. That's OK with me. I cherish the silence.

Someone told me once, "If it floats, flies or f---s, it's usually cheaper to rent."

As for sexism, we seem to be reaching a point here in the States where damned near everything is deemed sexist by some loud-mouthed crank with a megaphone. Or racist. Or something-phobic. And what I call the "tyranny of the strategically thin-skinned" is getting extreme:

It’s Time to Admit That Allowing Men Into the Workplace Was a Mistake

 

As for sexism, we seem to be reaching a point here in the States where damned near everything is deemed sexist by some loud-mouthed crank with a megaphone. Or racist. Or something-phobic. And what I call the "tyranny of the strategically thin-skinned" is getting extreme:

My recent research seems to indicate that the cult of victimhood is a large scale case of, "no threats available". The comfort level is unbearable. It turns their threat detection AGC all the way up. For instance, more than one man has been insulted for holding a door for a woman, including me. If life is too easy, invent a problem to solve, or just to complain about.

I think this started in the 1960's with the general rebellion against the status quo. It started as hating daddy for bringing his Army state of mind and white sidewall haircut home and ruling with an iron fist. Now that all the reasonable goals have been accomplished, that mentality has run off the end of the rails to the point that politeness is now a threat.

It’s Time to Admit That Allowing Men Into the Workplace Was a Mistake

ROFL! I hope that article gets a LOT of public exposure!
College enrollment is now at 60% female, there is no, "wage gap", and women are learning how to pay alimony. When they can, and are, doing everything from CEO to operating a shovel, my nefarious plan will be complete.

 

My recent research seems to indicate that the cult of victimhood is a large scale case of, "no threats available". The comfort level is unbearable. It turns their threat detection AGC all the way up. For instance, more than one man has been insulted for holding a door for a woman, including me. If life is too easy, invent a problem to solve, or just to complain about.

I call that state in which the comfort level is unbearable "being over-civilized." My view is that there is an optimal level of civilized-ness; less than that, and society tends toward barbarism. More than that, and it becomes effete and consumed with petty quarrels. Sometimes, the two ends eventually meet in a cataclysm.

I think this started in the 1960's with the general rebellion against the status quo. It started as hating daddy for bringing his Army state of mind and white sidewall haircut home and ruling with an iron fist. Now that all the reasonable goals have been accomplished, that mentality has run off the end of the rails to the point that politeness is now a threat.

It all reminds me of the story of The Princess and the Pea.

 

This feminine "AGC" as it's been called is becoming a bigger and bigger problem for me. Maybe I am highjacking here a little bit but please forgive me.

My wife needs a little bit of discord, as I've learned over the almost 8 years we've been married. She isn't happy just being happy. I don't understand it but I have identified it and have learned to predict it. She will go from being happy (relative) to there being "something wrong," which she denies for a few days, to me coming home and her not speaking to me. This does sometimes correlate to her lady cycle, but not always.

I confront her about it and she comes up with some reason randomly picked from a bag of emotions and what do you know, it's a some problem with me, every time. I'm not sweet enough. I don't give her enough attention. I stay up late watching Netflix when I have insomnia, instead of staying up late and talking to her. I spent some money on a need, that she wanted to spend on a want. I didn't take a day off of work to babysit her when she felt bad. I never give her a surprise gift. And on and on. I get mad that she's blaming me for her bad mood and we fight. She takes longer to cool down than a hot pocket multiplied by a poptart . So after a couple days and after I've promised to "improve" in the area of the stated grievance, she's back to "happy" (relative) again.

I've done some experiments in these situations. I've tried to meet her demands in earnest and I've also done absolutely nothing to change my behavior, and the result is the same. We go through a good period for a while and then the slow descent into madness. From this I conclude that she doesn't really need me to change in any way; what she needs is a fight. The fight flushes out whatever emotional blockage she has. I doesn't matter what I do, the emotion tubes get backed up again and they just need periodic maintenance (a fight).

I've been dealing with this for years and I just accepted that it was our status quo. It was a plateau we reached after about a year of marriage. But in recent months she has been escalating it. Threatening to leave and take the kids. Then after the fight she says she would never do that. And when she says it, she tries to make it sound like a benevolent act. She says she is "holding me back" and there are things that I want to do that I can't, because of her. She says she just wants me to be happy and be able to do what I want. That really pisses me off and it turns my side of the argument from half-hearted routine maintenance into real rage and depression.

She says it now every time we fight. I try not to let it get to me but it does. It's got me stressed out to the max. Life is stressful enough already for me, being the sole breadwinner and the one who takes care of everything except the kids. I know if she decided to leave and take my kids back to her country, I would never see them again.

I'm not sure what to do. I think she doesn't want to be with me anymore, but she doesn't want to say it. She wants me to say it. She wants me to tell her to take off, so she can be the victim and take off with no guilt. Or maybe I'm just paranoid about that.

 

When they can, and are, doing everything from CEO to operating a shovel, my nefarious plan will be complete.

Same plan here! The Ex claimed she could do everything I could do only to be promoted to prove it, which rarely wen t in her favor. Turns out all that manly crap we men have to do takes experience, detailed knowledge, skill and still sucks anyway.

Women stuff however more often than not is just like man stuff but has more unfounded drama and less physical effort behind it.
(seriously, vacuuming, mopping and cleaning the house can be done while the laundry is going thus cutting a 5+ hour a week job down to less than 2 hours tops. Less if you're like me and had to washer/dryer sets in the house and ran them together while doing other things.)

 

It all reminds me of the story of The Princess and the Pea.

I'm looking for a woman who can figuratively sleep on a boulder with two sheets for blankets next time.

 

I sympathize with your predicament, @strantor. I wish I had something positive or constructive to say, or a solution to offer, but it reminds me too much of my second marriage for me to be even a little bit objective about it. The kind of game-playing your wife is indulging in is extremely corrosive-- and sadly, it tends to not get any better with time.

If she's threatening to leave and take the kids to another country, I'd say you need to get yourself to a good divorce lawyer who can at least advise you on what she can legally do and not do-- and what you can do if she tries.

 

I'm looking for a woman who can figuratively sleep on a boulder with two sheets for blankets next time.

Good luck with that. And if you find one, be sure to get a pre-nup anyway. Just in case.

 

I've done some experiments in these situations. I've tried to meet her demands in earnest and I've also done absolutely nothing to change my behavior, and the result is the same. We go through a good period for a while and then the slow descent into madness. From this I conclude that she doesn't really need me to change in any way; what she needs is a fight. The fight flushes out whatever emotional blockage she has. I doesn't matter what I do, the emotion tubes get backed up again and they just need periodic maintenance (a fight).

That was my Ex as well. We have been divorced for a very nice year and half plus now and she has some new guy (2nd or 3rd or 4th maybe?) in her life which our inbetween friends, associates and some of my family know of to which they always ask me what I think of it. Definitely not jealous, that's for sure. I know full well what she is like and rather feel bad for the latest dumb bastard if he hasn't figured out her game yet.

I wish her and him well but I know from my daughter's limited inside intel she sneaks out in an unauthorized email every few months dear ol' mom really hasn't changed one bit so I suspect that in another year or two she will hang him out to dry as well once he wises up to what and why of the her drama of things as I and apparently 1 - 3 others have already.

 

Good luck with that. And if you find one, be sure to get a pre-nup anyway. Just in case.

Never said I would marry her! Once was enough for me. Especially since all my life I never felt I would get married to begin with and I was lucky to get out of the one I had unscathed.