Some of you might already know my mom is in her early nineties. Other than some arthritis and issues with her back, she is in excellent health.
The back being the worst of her issues. She was in a lot of pain last week. She slipped getting out of bed and fell to the floor. She could not make it to the phone. Fortunately, she has one of those pendents that calls the ambulance.
They came and got her and took her to the hospital. Tonight they transfer her to rehab. She has been there before, after her accident. My mom is tough, super tough. And stubborn When they had her walk the therapist would ask her to walk around the room once, she would say no! I am doing it twice! And with the approval of the therapist she would do it.
She got through therapy and was back to independent living in no time.
My dilemma:
In two weeks I leave for a 10 day bicycle tour. Part of me says, she is my mom and I should cancel and tend to her. But the other part says I can't worry about what has not happened yet and I can't let that rule my life. The airfare, train trip back is already paid for. It would be a shame to cancel when there is no need.
The good news is that she has a ton of friends here to care for her. Her church is unbelievable. Plus my brother is going come up from Houston to spend some time here.
Normally I send my bike ahead to a bike shop. Have them build it and that way it is ready for me when I get there and I don't need to schlep it through the airport. I talked to a neighbor an d he agreed to haul me and the bike to the airport. So that way I can decide to wait till the last minute to cancel.
The other thing I might do is to send it out ahead and have them wait till the last minute to build. That way all I need to do is to pay to have them ship back.
So assuming mom is coming along well in therapy, should I feel guilty going on this trip?
The back being the worst of her issues. She was in a lot of pain last week. She slipped getting out of bed and fell to the floor. She could not make it to the phone. Fortunately, she has one of those pendents that calls the ambulance.
They came and got her and took her to the hospital. Tonight they transfer her to rehab. She has been there before, after her accident. My mom is tough, super tough. And stubborn When they had her walk the therapist would ask her to walk around the room once, she would say no! I am doing it twice! And with the approval of the therapist she would do it.
She got through therapy and was back to independent living in no time.
My dilemma:
In two weeks I leave for a 10 day bicycle tour. Part of me says, she is my mom and I should cancel and tend to her. But the other part says I can't worry about what has not happened yet and I can't let that rule my life. The airfare, train trip back is already paid for. It would be a shame to cancel when there is no need.
The good news is that she has a ton of friends here to care for her. Her church is unbelievable. Plus my brother is going come up from Houston to spend some time here.
Normally I send my bike ahead to a bike shop. Have them build it and that way it is ready for me when I get there and I don't need to schlep it through the airport. I talked to a neighbor an d he agreed to haul me and the bike to the airport. So that way I can decide to wait till the last minute to cancel.
The other thing I might do is to send it out ahead and have them wait till the last minute to build. That way all I need to do is to pay to have them ship back.
So assuming mom is coming along well in therapy, should I feel guilty going on this trip?