Maybe so.......but WE also had to walk backwards, up the hills coming and going, and carry all the girls' books and lunches.

That's nothin'... we had to carry the girls... one on each shoulder!

 

Hey, cool; I just realized that I can expand the size of text entry box by dragging the bottom right corner.

You can? I don't seem to be able to. Are you talking about the Quick Reply text entry box, or some other. It could well be browser/OS specific, too.

 

Maybe so.......but WE also had to walk backwards, up the hills coming and going, and carry all the girls' books and lunches.

Seriously, in the early 50s; we walked 3 miles each way to school in Michigan, to a big, one room, schoolhouse with grades 1-12.
No running water, no electricity, no indoor toilets.

As youngsters, we got to hear the teacher also talking to Seniors all day long.
One year, we had one Senior graduate.
He was the only guy in his class.

That may have helped us little kids, learn faster than normal.

Well not 3 miles and not a one room school house, I did walk to school, maybe a mile. The janitor (Mr. Funwella) would right the large bell on the school, we knew was time to go to school. And we would walk home to lunch. So add it up and about 2 miles each way.

I remember making a Christmas candle for my mom. I forgot it at school and the school was closed for the Christmas holiday. My mom called Mr. Funwella had had him open the school, she made me walk down to get the candle. It created a whole scene.


I remember burning books in the basement coal furnace with Mr. Funwella. That would be wrong at so many levels today.

 

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no, in the "advanced" editor. I'm using Chrome.

 

I run to school in the snow barefooted ,I would love to rewind time. I ran to the

swimming pool every day I could. I picked cotton all day ,sun up to sun down for

a dime. I try to spell mallo cup to win a prize ,each package had a letter on the

bottom. The school store that looked like a shack even had a penny punch board.

 

When I was a boy we walked ten miles to school uphill both ways in 5 feet of snow and that was in the summertime!

First liar doesn't stand a chance.

 

My mom, who is still alive.
Never had a job. (til retirement age)
Never a drivers license.
Used outdoor plumbing.
Rode horse to school when lucky. (same school as me)
Made her own soap.
Raised own vegetables.
Raised and ate her own chickens in town.
We ate whatever mom and dad could catch.
Squirrel, venison, rabbit, blackbird, pheasant.
Canned enough for the winter.
Baked all bread.
Sauerkraut.
Sewed clothes for 5 kids.
Wood fired stove when I was young.
I remember toast device that sat on top.
Wrote down the names of all the little towns on her way to Winona. (25 mile trip)
Used wagon bridge across the Mississippi.
No tv til I was 10.

How things have changed in one generation.

 

I had a car saleman to take me to his mountain house to cut his fire wood. (inwo)

Bringing back good memories ,I told the story of people next door making soap out

fresh killed hog. My sister made home made sauerskraut. Had a coal room in basement.

A good list of things that makes you what you are.

 

Yeah, in the interview I wouldn't mention anything that you just said except the CDL. I definitely wouldn't throw any numbers out; you say 80k and you just shot yourself in the feet (both). Just say "I can breathe, lift 50lbs, I have a CDL, and I know how to drive in ND" - there, done.

I stopped by today. No positions open. In fact due to the extreme cold the gal at the front desk thought they were almost fully shut down for the winter.

I stopped by another place that had asked me to work for them a few months ago. Unfortunately they did not get the correct city permits for their new shop o they have no room for me at this time. In fact they are a bit worried that the permit problem might put the whole company expansion project back a good year or better now.

Third place I stopped by didn't have a clue about what options they have open but the gal saw my class A CDL and said that one department is needing a truck driver so they will let me know in a week or two.

Personally I don't want to find a job and really don't need too by my reasoning. I more than cover my half of our bills plus put money in our savings account doing my sideline work. It's my wife who is the one who wants me to get a job so I can work more hours to basically cover what I do now.

Her money is her money but my money is our money and right now she does not have enough of our money to cover her spending habits due to her poor financial management even though she makes nearly three time my present take home pay.

 

Her money is her money but my money is our money and right now she does not have enough of our money to cover her spending habits due to her poor financial management even though she makes nearly three time my present take home pay.

It's definitely not good when a husband/wife aren't on the same page regarding money issues -- it's the #1 cause of divorce in North America, even more than religious issues, children issues, or other family issues.

You might get something like The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey. I'm not inline with everything he recommends, but I think that if you do what he says you will be in pretty good shape.

 

Believe me I am aware of the relationship issues it causes.

Toss in a moderate amount of psychological bugs, primarily thyroid regulation issues of which her present meds sort of work most of the time which see sees as being good enough, and some days she's its really not fun to be around.

But what do I know. It's not like I have my own brain meds I have to take every day even though I don't like too or want to and have had to do so for about a decade or more now.

 

It's definitely not good when a husband/wife aren't on the same page regarding money issues -- it's the #1 cause of divorce in North America, even more than religious issues, children issues, or other family issues.

You might get something like The Total Money Makeover by Dave Ramsey. I'm not inline with everything he recommends, but I think that if you do what he says you will be in pretty good shape.

You're right about the No. 1 cause of divorce....

I've been listening to Ramsey's radio show since he came out, and he definitely gives some good advice, especially for young couples starting out..

 

I am definitely looking for seasoned advice on our marriage. We are not young newlyweds. We got married in our mid to latter 30's after having spent a good number of years focusing more on our careers than immediate family life.

We are not rich but we are not poor when it comes to resources. Or at least I am not. I don't actively live outside my means and I do put forth a very active effort to do whatever my skill set allow for to keep our expenditures at a minimum.

A good example is our heating costs were going up and she wanted me to get a regular job so that I could cover the heating bills like I said i would. I however dug in a hot water line from the shop down to where we moved the old house so that it could be heated for free again off the shop boiler system that runs on used oil I get for hauling it away.

That was not the way I was supposed to take care of the extra, my extra, heating costs this winter.

Instead of getting a job where I have to get up at 6 am and come home from at 6 PM 5 - 6 days a week to make $4000 - 5000 this winter to pay for the heat I spent around $750 and three good days of my time and put a new hot water circuit in that will allow me to heat this old house for nearly free for the rest of my expected life.

 

You seem to be in the same trap I was in. Wife making 3X what I made and couldn't pay for her $20 per day "lunches", $300 dresses to go to work in, and a herd of show dogs. The only revenge I got was when she complained that the car dealership charged her $86 to change a light bulb and I thought, "Maybe you should have cheated on me with a guy that was smart enough to change a light bulb".

Point is, she never understood that I saved us $2000 every time I overhauled a transmission, or painted the inside of the house, or remodeled the bathroom, or replaced the collapsed sewer pipe. She even sued me for the $150 I spent on 4 inch PVC pipe and the 89 cents I spent for stainless steel screws to attach a fire shield next to the kitchen stove! (Orangeburg was the brand name for the old tar paper sewer pipe).

To that kind of woman, the only thing that counts is cash flow...HER cash flow. They are oblivious to the idea that avoiding thousands of dollars in expenses increases their cash flow. Much like the government, she believes your labor on your property is worth nothing. Worse, the time you spend doing a tune up, oil change and lube job on her car is just a nuisance because her car is out of service for more than an hour and you're just wasting money on spark plugs and oil.

I should shut up now.

 

"To that kind of woman, the only thing that counts is cash flow...HER cash flow."



Man, you nailed that one......I've had two like that.

 

I have been exceedingly fortunate in the lady I found. She buys a lot of stuff, but pays very little for it -- between thrift stores, garage sales, and E-bay she keeps the expenses down quite well. On top of that, she is willing to dig right in and put in the labor around the house to do things that should rightfully be my responsibility -- but she knows I have little time and that my energy levels don't last long, so she just pitches in. We both believe if paying off all credit cards in full each month and have no debt other than the house (and we're trying to move it down as fast as we can, though with my very precarious employment situation that isn't as fast as I would like).

 

The biggest issue at the moment is last summer I took the whole summer off to work on our new house project after a company walkout occurred where I had been working for a year and a half.

Unfortunately due to unforeseeable weather and extensive flooding that lead to severe erosion issues on our family land it became necessary to take care of that first so I ran heavy equipment for 8 - 12 hours a day 6 - 7 days a week for the whole summer doing a major stream channel relocation plus cleanup of the eroded areas. ~100,000 cubic yards moved by a 3 yard excavator and a 5 yard payloader.

Anyway to my wife that is no excuse even though my dad was paying me well the whole summer for giving up my time for his emergency. Life happens and I deal with it accordingly.

To her that whole house was supposed to be in and livable yet we are on a build as we can afford it schedual being that she has no credit history and for as far back as mine goes I have had no credit cards plus every loan I have ever had got paid off way faster than it was written for which puts me in a the less than perfect credit rating range simply due to having spent a lifetime of being somewhat financially responsible.

Her mentality for the whole project is that I should take out high interest loans pay huge amounts of money to have other people do work I am more than capable of doing myself and then pay off said loans more than likely all by myself in the end being that she never has any extra money to work with.

Sorry but if I am paying and doing the majority of the work it's going to be done at my speed and discretion.

 

You seem to be in the same trap I was in.

 

Definitely looking for answers to make our relationship work.

Right now too much gets met with an irrational and unjustified confrontational attitude. She would do XYZ but since I didn't take my shoes off when I came in the house three months ago on some saturday afternoon she has no reason to agree. Or I didn't use her 58 step process to wash clothes at some undefinable point so that's reason enough as well.

Last week it was that I don't go shopping or do the cooking or do the laundry. I did the shopping exactly to her list but it was wrong because I bought enough of some common items to last more than a week.
Following that when I got home I put the groceries away but I moved a set of plastic storage dishes over about 6 inches to make room for a few of the extra items. That was wrong.
When she got home I made supper all on my own but that was wrong because I didn't cook things the way she would. Not cooked wrong. I just use a different sequence.
Lastly laundry didn't fly either. I washed my dirty jacket an coveralls using the extra large load setting on hot/warm. She does them on large with the warm/cold settings.

The rationalizing stuff like that I believe is related to the thyroid issues or OCD or multiple personalities or brain rot or just being a woman in her mid 30's.

 

It's called, "negative framing". Everything you do is wrong and you will soon find it is because of your sinister motives.