It's not so hot with present lovers when they figure their pride has been hurt but can't actually put an exact point on the what where when and who part so you just get the burden justified or otherwise.and ex-lovers are the worst type of enemy when their pride is hurt.
Reality says nothing was done to hurt their pride but fantasy says that dream they think they sort of remember possibly having about you doing or not doing something still counts.
And that's the short summary of a day in my married life.