This is just plain sad...

tcmtech

Joined Nov 4, 2013
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I would never suspect you're that old. The way you write seems like a twenty-something to me.:confused:
Rather hoped they are in the mid 30's - mid 40's age range and into well built farm boys myself. :p

Not saying I am looking but educated, interesting personalities, tech geekish, and financial well enough off to not have to worry about needing to support them in any way plus apparently tolerant and dang near respectful of my own eccentricities in life is a pure fantasy gal in my views! Two that are friends is just too much. :oops:
 

tcmtech

Joined Nov 4, 2013
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When I get to the Big Beyond, I'm counting on hooking up again with Giant Janet. 6'1", endless legs and a positive mental attitude.

Sigh...

That was my Ex for the first ~3 years. 6' 1" 200 #'s of sexy outgoing and fun amazon woman.

I told people that if she was a vehicle she was fully loaded SUV! However when we got divorced she was pushing the broken down bus full of hornets nests appeal pretty hard. :oops:
 

Aleph(0)

Joined Mar 14, 2015
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I would never suspect you're that old. The way you write seems like a twenty-something to me.:confused:
#12 You guess right cuz I was 25 last April but you didn't need to guess cuz it's on my profile:)

#12 I'm not a Doors fan at all! So can I help it if lyrics work for joke:D? So maybe you'll be surprised that I AM a fan of Zeppelin, Moody Blues, Pink Floyd and America:cool:? I should also say I WAS fan of Heart (who I think on as like _Zep Light_) but no more! Cuz band split up when Ann Wilson started making excuses for her Crypt Keeper hubby Dean Wetter's bad temper and beating up on Nancy's kids:confused:! So I say being a crazy cat lady would be one thing but crazy zombie lady is totally across the line:eek:!

So anybody thinking I'm being too mean to Dean Here's a pic of the happy couple that I posted on other thread. Now I wish I could say he's in costume but that's his REAL face and he has personality to match:eek:!
 

Aleph(0)

Joined Mar 14, 2015
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What does HF mean please, sorry.

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Killivolt It's just abbreviation for Harbor Freight:confused:? So anyhow just so I don't sound like total malcontent I can think of one good thing to say about them which is when ppl buy their junk they always get what they pay for:p!
 

Aleph(0)

Joined Mar 14, 2015
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Rather hoped they are in the mid 30's - mid 40's age range
tcmtech I say ppl could totally save a lot of time by just reading profiles! So anyhow I'm 25 and HP is almost 42:cool:.

So full disclosure: When I first joined AAC I added 10 years to my age cuz I didn't think anybody would take Millennial who looks like Fleur Bennett+Barbra Eden hybrid seriously and numpty talk didn't help either but HP wasn't sure who I was back then so that's how I tried to hide identity b4 it basically became part of my persona like unshakable habito_O! Anyhow HP made me correct my bday in profile after ppl knew we were mother and daughter cuz ppl would know my age was wrong by being just 7 years younger than HP! So she said it was matter of establishing integrity by being consistently truthful (which she really does take vry seriously) but I say maybe it was also a little abt her not wanting ppl to think she was 10 years older than she is:p
@Hypatia's Protege Here's tag so you can't say I'm taking advantage of your absence by gossiping:D!
 

tcmtech

Joined Nov 4, 2013
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tcmtech I say ppl could totally save a lot of time by just reading profiles!
I never have looked at those things simply because too many put false info on them.

I find them to be like womens pictures on dating sites. The picture and info they use rarely matches the person they actually are today. Especially if they are female and in the 35 - 45 age range as I have found. :mad:

One of my friends does that with her profiles and I keep telling her that why every guy she meets bails on her after the meet once. Her picture shows her as about mid 20's 5'3" 140#'s and hot! The real her is now 44, 5' 0" and looks like she just ate the person in the picture she uses then got run over by a bus. :(

And personally I can relate to why the guys bail every time. Nice person with a lot going for her but total lack of proper representation of herself is a real put off to guys looking for a outgoing fit healthy partner. Rather why she is in my permanent friend zone with half a dozen or more women like her too.

Or as with one gal I used to hang out with that could pass for the still hot for late 40's older sister (or mom) of your avatar picture she's drank so much that her brain is pickled beyond recovery now. Formerly smart and outgoing is now largely scrambled eggs in a hat to the point a intelligent conversation is difficult even when she is sober. Not my thing either.:(
 
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Aleph(0)

Joined Mar 14, 2015
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I never have looked at those things simply because too many put false info on them.

I find them to be like womens pictures on dating sites. The picture and info they use rarely matches the person they actually are today. Especially if they are female and in the 35 - 45 age range as I have found. :mad:

One of my friends does that with her profiles and I keep telling her that why every guy she meets bails on her after the meet once. Her picture shows her as about mid 20's 5'3" 140#'s and hot! The real her is now 44, 5' 0" and looks like she just ate the person in the picture she uses then got run over by a bus. :(

And personally I can relate to why the guys bail every time. Nice person with a lot going for her but total lack of proper representation of herself is a real put off to guys looking for a outgoing fit healthy partner. Rather why she is in my permanent friend zone with half a dozen or more women like her too.
Tcmtech I totally agree that there's no point in putting false info in profile cuz if someone thinks it's nobody's business they can just leave field blank:confused:!

So I think putting false info on singles site is totally extra special stupid cuz ppl on those sites plan to meet correspondents in person so what's the point:confused:?

And personally I can relate to why the guys bail every time.
Tcmtech I say maybe it's also cuz if someone can't even tell the truth abt their appearance it's totally natural to think they also lie abt totally more important things:rolleyes:!
 

#12

Joined Nov 30, 2010
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@tcmtech @Aleph(0)
I already posted that I punted a woman for refusing to come down off her fake personality, so "getting real" is high on my priorities.
(Our entire relationship was one cup of coffee.)
I can also remember when I wasn't sure who I was, let alone know how to verbalize it.
Like a woman, I made decisions based on how I felt bc that was my best compass for the right direction, and it had serious flaws.
I got over that. School of Hard Knocks put me through enough challenges to gain experience about what choices I would make. Slowly by slowly, the uncertainty fell away.
At 25, "Everybody has infinite possibilities until they open their mouth and start limiting their self." At 40, "Your words don't matter, I can see what you're doing."
My lie detector has changed from a light bulb to a laser beam.
I never look at Profiles either. I can read people.
Sometimes I'm wrong, but I'm getting pretty good in that skill.
So my advice to Aleph is still, "Be yourself." People with age and experience can see who you are. False representations only brand you as a liar. After they spot the first perjury, everything else is suspect.
 

tcmtech

Joined Nov 4, 2013
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So I think putting false info on singles site is totally extra special stupid cuz ppl on those sites plan to meet correspondents in person so what's the point:confused:?
Not a clue on that but I know is a rampant issue with online dating in general and why I don't pursue the concept any more.

I don't care if a gal is average in looks but she has to have at least some degree of brain in her head and a stable job plus at least the basic capacity to walk long distances to be of interest. As I tell people, I don't want someone that looks like the have a eating disorder as in they either eat too much or not enough.

I can also remember when I wasn't sure who I was, let alone know how to verbalize it.
Like a woman, I made decisions based on how I felt bc that was my best compass for the right direction, and it had serious flaws.
I got over that. School of Hard Knocks put me through enough challenges to gain experience about what choices I would make. Slowly by slowly, the uncertainty fell away.
At 25, "Everybody has infinite possibilities until they open their mouth and start limiting their self." At 40, "Your words don't matter, I can see what you're doing."
My lie detector has changed from a light bulb to a laser beam.
I never look at Profiles either. I can read people.
Sometimes I'm wrong, but I'm getting pretty good in that skill.
So my advice to Aleph is still, "Be yourself." People with age and experience can see who you are. False representations only brand you as a liar. After they spot the first perjury, everything else is suspect.
Been there done that but had it together well enough by the time I was in my early 20's to know that putting that time of my life towards building myself up to have a better future was more important than having a relationship.

Odd thing is now that I am in my mid 40's I apparently represent most everything of value in a relationship (except for the fancy house and big bank account as of yet) but now I don't really want one or at lest not one with anyone who doesn't hold a similar or greater equivalence! :p
 

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OBW0549

Joined Mar 2, 2015
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I never look at Profiles either. I can read people.
Sometimes I'm wrong, but I'm getting pretty good in that skill.
I look at profiles, but in the case of the Internet dating sites I used to be on, I learned to do so with extreme skepticism because much of the time, what people wrote in them didn't reflect what that person was like but rather what they wished they were like, or what they wanted others to think they are like. And a significant percentage of the time, I found the person in some respect or other to be exactly the opposite of their self-description.
 

WBahn

Joined Mar 31, 2012
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I look at profiles, but in the case of the Internet dating sites I used to be on, I learned to do so with extreme skepticism because much of the time, what people wrote in them didn't reflect what that person was like but rather what they wished they were like, or what they wanted others to think they are like. And a significant percentage of the time, I found the person in some respect or other to be exactly the opposite of their self-description.
I only did one Internet dating site and was pretty sure that a high fraction of the profiles were at least somewhat bogus. I made a point of making mine straight up, since I was serious about trying to find someone and figured doing otherwise would be counterproductive in the long run. It worked in the sense that it cut out a huge fraction of the people I was matched with who took one look at my profile and bailed immediately. But that's fine, because it narrowed it down quite nicely to include the gal I married.
 

Aleph(0)

Joined Mar 14, 2015
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So my advice to Aleph is still, "Be yourself." People with age and experience can see who you are. False representations only brand you as a liar. After they spot the first perjury, everything else is suspect.
#12 I say that's vry good advice for ppl actually trying to be deceptive but numpty talk is supposed to be transparent:D I'd be vry depressed if ppl really thought I'm that dumb:eek:! Aleph persona is just comfortable fun w/o all the intensity and drama in offline life:) So if I was really trying to convince ppl I'm idiot I'd make content match expressiono_O! Unless you're saying I really am idiot trying to hide it by pretending to pretend I'm idiot:mad::p?

So being totally serious it's going to sound immodest but it's that I never had a chance to be just a kid cuz I was undergrad b4 most ppl my age were in HS. So I'm totally grateful for the headstart but I say I missed out on a lot of fun and blissful ignorance of hard facts of life that most ppl have at early age. So anyhow it's just harmless style thing cuz for sure if anyone believes I'm really numpty the loss is totally mine:(

#12 also if you look on my old posts and compare them to present you can see _the real me_ is emerging despite myself:eek: cuz I was a lot dumber at firsto_O!

#12 that reminds me
@Aleph(0) Have you been drunk posting?:rolleyes:
(I ask bc one member asked me in PM but I can't tell fake numpty from drunk posting and could not answer him.:()
#12 Accidentally making that impression is possibility I hadn't allowed for cuz that could explain expression out of sync with content too:eek:! And HP's jokes along those lines don't help at all:mad:!

So anyhow if it bothers you just think on me as a little more eloquent and a lot more text obsessed version of all I am on here:cool:
 

Aleph(0)

Joined Mar 14, 2015
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Like a woman, I made decisions based on how I felt bc that was my best compass for the right direction, and it had serious flaws.
@#12 I say demographics has nothing to do with it! Making decision with heart instead of head is mistake of just all HUMANS in general when we're young and foolish:oops:! So no need for getting politics into everything:D
 

#12

Joined Nov 30, 2010
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#12 I say that's vry good advice for ppl actually trying to be deceptive but numpty talk is supposed to be transparent:D
I was referring to your statement about trying to fight your fear of a general bias against a "young professional"
Application of that advice against your numpty personna is only valid if numpty is how you present yourself at work.
Making decision with heart instead of head is mistake of just all HUMANS in general when we're young and foolish:oops:!
Which is exactly what I confessed to. The distinction is that I grew out of that phase, but I have never met a woman that did, and I am now refusing advances from women in their 50's.

ps, I would prefer you not do the numpty dance here. Yo' mama is difficult enough to read without some clarity interleaved with her posts.
 

Aleph(0)

Joined Mar 14, 2015
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Application of that advice against your numpty personna is only valid if numpty is how you present yourself at work.
Got it, tnx:)! Anyhow no worries cuz alephism is strictly leisuretime indulgence:D!

but I have never met a woman that did, and I am now refusing advances from women in their 50's.
#12 I say either you're looking in all the wrong places or _Boomergals_ have some serious issues:eek::(! So I know! By being like _generation conscious_ now I'm being political too:oops:;)
 

Aleph(0)

Joined Mar 14, 2015
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ps, I would prefer you not do the numpty dance here. Yo' mama is difficult enough to read without some clarity interleaved with her posts.
#12 so you're saying both formality and informality are bad for your _reader's digestion_:confused::D? So I say at least centrism isn't totally dead everywhere:D!
 

#12

Joined Nov 30, 2010
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#12 I say either you're looking in all the wrong places
I don't look. They get offered to me by friends&family or by themselves.
You might have a chance to become well rounded and globally perceptive because of good native intellect and education. Right now, I perceive well and usually know what choice to make, but when confusion reigns, I fall back to emotional judgement. The mere fact that I'm confused usually means I am being offered an opportunity for a bad decision.
so you're saying both formality and informality are bad for your _reader's digestion_:confused::D?
Both of them are false representations; the Very Formal Tone and the Numpty with serious intellect and education. I prefer people who present themselves as who they are. You might call that honesty-centric, which I would be happy to call my own.
 
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