Refusing to even try is on my list of most horrible things because it amounts to self inflicted uselessness.She's still real resistant to try new things because she's afraid she won't do well (and particularly afraid that others will see her not doing well).
Half of the jobs I do, I wouldn't be doing if the owner just bothered to look.
Door doesn't latch correctly? Bother to look. A dab of Vaseline will fix that right up...and you paid me a house call to do that for you???
Door bell doesn't ring? Bother to look. The push-button disintegrated. Less than $5 at the hardware store...and you paid me a house call to tell you that???
Exhaust fan only hums? Bother to look. The v-belt broke...and you called an electrician???
Self-inflicted failure.
You have to try things you don't already know how to do! How else will you find your talents and your lack of talents?
I am a miserable fisherman. I had to try it to find out.
I'm a great handyman. I had to try it to find out.
I'm a miserable musician. I had to try it to find out.
I'm a friggin' virtuoso on a table saw. I had to try it to find out.
I didn't look at any of those things and know what the end result would be.
You have to bother to look. If you don't, it only results in self-inflicted failure.
When you fail, you still learned something...what you're not naturally good at.
When you win, you have another, "I can do it" notch on your belt, and nobody can take it away from you.