Feeling kind of down today. For some reason I can't get this woman I meet a year ago out of my mind.
When it comes to women I am a chicken. I need to know a woman for a couple of days or so and establish a relationship, just to work up the courage of asking them out.
All those stores about people meeting someone in a supermarket, that would never be me.
My problem is that I just don't meet all very many eligible women on the first place.
Got thinking today about a woman I met about a year ago on a volunteer project. She was beautiful. About 10 years younger than me but looked much younger than that.
We worked together all day, she seemed like a very nice person, obviously community minded, went to church and seemed to really care about her mom ( her mom was at the volunteer event too, we all had lunch together at the event).
When she left for the day, I said nothing. And then I was given another chance, she came back for a few rocks for her garden (we were building a playground and dug up tons of them) I said nothing. There was a voice inside be that keep yelling, "say something stupid". But I said nothing. I also had to wonder if she was really getting rocks or giving me a second chance but I will never know.
Maybe I was intimidated by her beauty. Maybe it was the fact that she could not remember my name during the day, so I figured if she could not remember my name she was not interested anyway. And really never gave me any clues.
What is depressing is not that I never had the chance to go out with her but I didn't even try. Had I asked and she turned me down, I would have known and just gone on with my life.
So my advice to the younger guys. Don't be a chicken like me. If you see a young lady you would like to meet ask her out for lunch or a cup of coffee. The worst she can say is no. Believe me not knowing is far worse.
If you take the first piece of advice then the best piece of advice I have is don't settle for second best when it comes time for marriage. I see so many friends that live miserable lives because when they got married they happened to be dating someone that wanted to get married and I guess they figured if they did not get married now they might never be married. When I see the life they have really feel lucky to have mine. What is worse then being lonely is being lonely with someone, and yes that is possible.
When it comes to women I am a chicken. I need to know a woman for a couple of days or so and establish a relationship, just to work up the courage of asking them out.
All those stores about people meeting someone in a supermarket, that would never be me.
My problem is that I just don't meet all very many eligible women on the first place.
Got thinking today about a woman I met about a year ago on a volunteer project. She was beautiful. About 10 years younger than me but looked much younger than that.
We worked together all day, she seemed like a very nice person, obviously community minded, went to church and seemed to really care about her mom ( her mom was at the volunteer event too, we all had lunch together at the event).
When she left for the day, I said nothing. And then I was given another chance, she came back for a few rocks for her garden (we were building a playground and dug up tons of them) I said nothing. There was a voice inside be that keep yelling, "say something stupid". But I said nothing. I also had to wonder if she was really getting rocks or giving me a second chance but I will never know.
Maybe I was intimidated by her beauty. Maybe it was the fact that she could not remember my name during the day, so I figured if she could not remember my name she was not interested anyway. And really never gave me any clues.
What is depressing is not that I never had the chance to go out with her but I didn't even try. Had I asked and she turned me down, I would have known and just gone on with my life.
So my advice to the younger guys. Don't be a chicken like me. If you see a young lady you would like to meet ask her out for lunch or a cup of coffee. The worst she can say is no. Believe me not knowing is far worse.
If you take the first piece of advice then the best piece of advice I have is don't settle for second best when it comes time for marriage. I see so many friends that live miserable lives because when they got married they happened to be dating someone that wanted to get married and I guess they figured if they did not get married now they might never be married. When I see the life they have really feel lucky to have mine. What is worse then being lonely is being lonely with someone, and yes that is possible.