I know I've seen it, don't know what to call it, but I know of a relay that operates a toggle cam. The cam actuates the plunger of a simple microswitch. One click from the relay and the switch activates. One more click from the relay and it deactivates. You could mount something like that in a box with a simple spring loaded push button that when pushed down it does the same thing the relay does when electrically activated. Wish I could find that again. Saw it back in the 80's. There's GOT to be something similar even these days.

