I looked it up. this diode is "rated" at 1A. What if my circuit "carries" 2A, or more? And the reed switch? I've already "fried" 5 or 6 of them.A 1N4007 diode should suffice.
wait... the coil "connects" to pos. PAST the light bulb (load). I'll go to the garage and "move' the bulb, to see if the relay buzzes....You don't see a difference between the bench setup and how it was wired up in the car?