No simulator can model real world behavior completely and the more you model real world behavior, the slower the simulation becomes. It's a tradeoff and you have to decide how faithfully you want your simulations to reflect the real world. A simulation that takes weeks to complete (and, yes, I have had sims that took longer than that to run) isn't very useful for most design work. It may be what you have to live with for final verification against specs, though.pardon my ignorance but i really do not know (or care) what it is under the hood of a spice simulator. or why comparing input voltage against fixed levels need hysteresis at all on a gate that is not Schmidt trigger...
whatever the approach is, that is something that simulator creators should take care of. the whole point of simulation is to model real world and if it cannot do that well, that it is not a good simulation.
Model designers have to decide where to make that tradeoff. Simple digital models are designed for simulation speed and to evaluate basic functionality of the logic. They are generally not intended for evaluating the analog performance of the circuit. To get that, you need to use the transistor-level circuits that implement the gates. Hybrid models that let you interface digital models with analog models have interfaces instantiated behind the scenes to convert between logic levels and voltage levels. The basic ones are very simple, but most allow you to customize their behavior to better match your needs.