Yes I do understand (the the extent that I can, without actually being in her shoes). Like I said, she's not being unreasonable. She has only been in the country for a few months; I have tried to get her to go out with my sister & her friends, but she is shy & self consious of her accent/english. I've tried to tell her that making friends here is going to be one of those things like credit; you have to have it to get it and you have to get it to have it. No comfortable place to start.Poor girl.
Try to put yourself in her shoes. Use 5 minutes and think. How would you feel? The one you love and cherish is always busy working or inventing in the garage. I think its wise to talk with her, make her feel good and special.
Respect, patience and dialog/communication.
I have a feeling it is going to get better for her soon, as we just sent our daughter to school last week and she now has the chance to mingle with the other moms at pick-up & dropoff time; only a matter of time before she makes a friend or two. Only problem is that all the other moms speak vietnamese or spanish.