All you need is the theory of capacitance. That gives you the relation between charge and voltage. Heck, I learned the basics of capacitance at age 15 before I learned any significant math. I think I had a year of algebra at that point in time. If you find it hard, well then it's hard for you. But, all we can do is point you in a direction. My finger is pointing in the direction of "learn the theory of capacitance". You'll have to figure out what book or resources are suited for you. I'm sure the ones I like will not be ones you will like, but that's why there are many books written - so that everyone can find one that appeals to them.I have. I find Drude's model wrong but useful. Sommerfield is better because he recognizes that nothing is really continuous. The "Nearly Free Electron Model" reminds me of Br-549's hairnet -- in places (I don't want to insult him). But Band Theory and the Tight Binding Model seem to me more reasonable in their descriptions. Bottom line: It's clear nobody knows what's really happening, and almost all of these theorists are very bad at (a) drawing pictures, and (b) explaining their thoughts in plain English. Goodness! Einstein had less trouble explaining relativity to the average man. But enough of that.
The theory of capacitance will not give you all you need because you have many more than one misconception plaguing you. But, that is one you specifically asked for when you stated you want to know the relation between voltage and charge.
I'm done trying to explain because all my explanations have failed, however, I can still point when I think it might help you to know which direction to walk in.



