I have recently figured out a better way of sitting up in bed and using my lappy It is far less uncomfortable than laying on my back and typing I can actually see the keyboard this way! Every thing for me lately is technique. Would anyone mind me deleting posts on this thread to make it more readable? As a moderator I can read deleted post if I want too. Just a thought. The upshot is my typing will become even clearer, an I will do more writing, I have gotten my depression under control, FINALLY! I have also discovered my antibiotic I occasionally and my antidepressants (which usuallyworks for me)don't mix as they cause really intense life threatening depression. As the docs like to say, then don't mix them!

My Thanksgiving was excellent. The only fly left in my ointment is figuring how to prototype circuits.
and test them, something I have done all my life.

 

Its been a while since I have been on this forum with all the work involved with the owners. Its great to hear things are working out well for you !!!
I was too late to wish you a happy thanksgiving so I shall wish you a happy Christmas!

 

typing I can actually see the keyboard this way!

Heck Wendy, if I can't see the keyboard I can't type. I have a bad enough and slow enough time when I can see the keyboard.

Ron

 

I am very glad that your situation is improved, Wendy. I had no clue as to why you were not responding and now I am relieved to know that is was not because of me. Not everybody finds me agreeable or non-threatening.
and you can delete whatever you choose to delete, it is fine with me.

 

@MisterBill2 , for what it is worth I consider ourselves friends, I am a very social person.
I try not to let the computer rule too much of my life ( yeah right. That is what I keep telling myself)

 

This is great news! I hopeyou can continue to develop useful techniques. I think it is ok if you tidy up the thread as you see fit.

 

The only fly left in my ointment is figuring how to prototype circuits.
and test them, something I have done all my life.

Build a robot to do all that for you.

 

That is right up there with prototyping. If I could get a Simulator to stick in my damaged brain cells that could be a bot of sort. for me electronics is a form of meditation. When I get deep into thinking about it I am not aware of the passage of time. I have a rather deep distrust of simulators in general, having seen some of the things beginners come up with using them. Reality has a flavor all of its own.

 

Wendy, I found out about this thread just now, and read through it.

I recently lost a close friend, after a very short, 6-month battle with cancer. His life was miserable lately, and the disease finished him off.

Sadly, he did next to nothing to help his case: He usually refused to eat anything healthy, wouldn't exercise nor tend to his hygiene.

Was he without money or insurance? Yes.
Did he have a bad relation with his know-it-all brother? Yes.
Was he betrayed by his sister, costing him emotionally? Yes.
Was he in constant pain from the bone cancer and back injuries? Yes.

He had every reason to complain that life was too hard on him and that his improvement was out of his grasp. He would always say he would try harder "eventually". And he was probably justified to say that.

Still, this stance led him to his death, whether it was his fault for keeping it or not.

So, that said, you have no idea how happy I am to hear that you put up a fight, having your downs, but also ups.
And to hear that you keep the fighting spirit. You don't need to kindle it every day, very few of us do. Just don't let it fade.

Bless you!

 

It is good to have friends, I miss seeing people and hugs, I once read a story about being touched starved and it fits me very well. My short term goal is figuring how to get myself out of this house by myself, I cannot get dressed without help, though I can now do a lot of things I couldn't before. Walking would be nice but currently out of reach. Fact is I am working on it as best I know how.

 

It is good to have friends, I miss seeing people and hugs, I once read a story about being touched starved and it fits me very well. My short term goal is figuring how to get myself out of this house by myself, I cannot get dressed without help, though I can now do a lot of things I couldn't before. Walking would be nice but currently out of reach. Fact is I am working on it as best I know how.

But I am guessing the type of hug you miss is the "good to see you" type of hug rather than the "poor Wendy" type of hug. That could one of the reasons more people don't stop by. They just don't know how to handle it. My advice would to them would be to just stop by for a chat and don't dwell on your condition. From what I am reading you are taking cae of that very well.

Your closest of friends and your family can give you that support when you really need it. All the rest need to worry about is just stopping over and just talk about what is going on in the world. No pressure, just talk.

You have the tough job of convincing them not to pity or worry about you. Just continue to be your friend just like they always have been.

 

One way to do that is things like dinner plans, It amazes me how common steps and impediments to wheelchair traffic is. Gives me a whole new appreciation for the the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act)If I ever do recover I will never look at steps the same again. I think I will be a gentler person after this. Part of the volunteer work to pay it forward, I hope.

 

One way to do that is things like dinner plans, It amazes me how common steps and impediments to wheelchair traffic is. Gives me a whole new appreciation for the the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act)If I ever do recover I will never look at steps the same again. I think I will be a gentler person after this. Part of the volunteer work to pay it forward, I hope.

You don't need a disability to appreciate the ADA. If you ever delivered computers for a living (or anything large) you would love the laws. Makes things a whole lot easier.

 

But I am guessing the type of hug you miss is the "good to see you" type of hug rather than the "poor Wendy" type of hug. That could one of the reasons more people don't stop by. They just don't know how to handle it. My advice would to them would be to just stop by for a chat and don't dwell on your condition. From what I am reading you are taking cae of that very well.

Your closest of friends and your family can give you that support when you really need it. All the rest need to worry about is just stopping over and just talk about what is going on in the world. No pressure, just talk.

You have the tough job of convincing them not to pity or worry about you. Just continue to be your friend just like they always have been.

Something I think a lot of men don' get (and maybe some woman) is how different the cultures between male and female are. Men compete, whether they mean to or not and women don't. Like all stereotypes there are exceptions. I am allowed to be friendly to small children and babies without getting the stink eye. As a fellow woman I am not seen as a threat. A woman rear ended me several years ago (No real damage done as it was low speed) After stopping and concluding the cars were OK we hugged and moved on. I faked being a man fairly well, I prefer the woman's culture by far. I have been propositioned in parking lots more than one by horn dog. After making sure i was safe I found it funny. Like I said,it is a different world.Women see the world differently because we have to.

 

Everything for me nowdays is technique, yesterday I stood and balanced unassisted from my wheelchair, today I did it twice I felt good about it until I realized my right leg was doing all the work of balancing, my left still wasn't load bearing much at all, so after getting to my feet and standing maybe 5 seconds I sat back down and did 100 sit downs ( one inch above the seat and hold it using the sink and my good right arm to get up and down (great for the abs). I used the arm of the wheelchair to push up from. Since this was a high risk maneuver (falling) I made sure I was in front of the sink and had my cell phone on. Another exercise to build on,

 

I'm glad that you are discovering new ways to improve your overall health and abilities. Be careful!

If you fall, can you get back into your wheelchair?

 

Everything for me nowdays is technique, yesterday I stood and balanced unassisted from my wheelchair, today I did it twice I felt good about it until I realized my right leg was doing all the work of balancing, my left still wasn't load bearing much at all, so after getting to my feet and standing maybe 5 seconds I sat back down and did 100 sit downs ( one inch above the seat and hold it using the sink and my good right arm to get up and down (great for the abs). I used the arm of the wheelchair to push up from. Since this was a high risk maneuver (falling) I made sure I was in front of the sink and had my cell phone on. Another exercise to build on,

If you think about it all of us work to operate in our enviroment. We have just been doing it all of our lives. Much like you used to do before you got sick. Now you have a whole near world to learn how to operate. Keep going. Wonderful to hear you are trying so hard and being rewarded with success.

 

I'm glad that you are discovering new ways to improve your overall health and abilities. Be careful!

If you fall, can you get back into your wheelchair?

Nope I splat and just lay there like a fish out of the aquarium, I put my cellphone under the front of my bra just in case. I try not to let a fear of falling stop me, when you walk are you afraid of tripping? So far so good.

Behold the lowly tortoise, who goes nowhere unless he sticks his neck out. A quote I remember from I know not where.

There is a joke about a man who fell out of a 10 story building, every time passed a floor he was heard to say "so far so good".

 

Several years ago I installed a bar for a lady so that she could do "self lifting exercises". At least that was her claim that the bar was for. It allowed her to grab it and lift herself off the floor. Possibly a bar like that could be useful for you as part of an exercise program. Another client got a hoist so that one person could be lifted up to get into a wheel chair. That one was interesting because it had to be very quiet, in addition to being a variable speed lift and lower. A lifting system like that could certainly pick you back up from a "splat", or possibly just be a safety support to keep you from falling very far if you lose your stance. So there are a couple possibilities to avoid hitting the floor.
I am not sure if either of these ideas make any sense in your situation, but other folks found them useful. And neither of the things needed a big change in the ceiling, just 2 holes into the ceiling joists for the supports, so they could be removed and patched over with no visible trace.

 

Wendy, is there a problem at your end??? It says that you posted something but I see nothing. Is there a problem?? Perhaps somebody closer than me can check on Wendy. I am about 2000 miles away in Michigan.

 

No,no problem. This lappie (or is it my mouse?) occasionally bounces and double enters the same post. I will be PMing you.

Edit: As for the missing post a spammer was nailed by another moderator. <Poof> They are gone into the void, unlikely to return.
..................Wendy