Because of the high gain of the MOSFET, it will rapidly turn on and off once its gate threshold voltage is reached.One more suggestion keeping it simple.
Set R4 value for brightness.
Set R2 value for ON delay.
Set R3 value for OFF delay.
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It worked fine on the bench. The 3.9 volt zener diode slows the turn on timeBecause of the high gain of the MOSFET, it will rapidly turn on and off once its gate threshold voltage is reached.