I want to hit this thing with a sledge hammer and do everything that could even possibly help. Tired of wiring up these mosfets.Why not place a zener diode across the mosfet? It will significantly clamp any reverse voltage spikes and will clamp any other voltage spikes to the zener voltage. Just make sure the zener voltage is above the normal operational voltage.
Would you put the zener diode from the mosfets source to drain? And would this be in addition to diodes from the drain to positive terminal correct?