I have trouble understanding the electric fields outside capacitors (also the energy stored in a capacitor) qualitatively. The problem is when applying Gauss's law. For a capacitor, the field outside can be calculated by two ways (I think) : (1)To add the fields due to each plate each equal to σ/2ε, (adding to σ/ε inside the capacitor) and these would cancel each other outside the capacitor (2)To draw a Gaussian surface which includes both the plates of the capacitor, thereby finding the electric field to be zero (enclosed charges cancel each other).
Either way, there is no field outside a capacitor, which is what all text books point out. But there is a whole host of problems with this analogy. Like, if there is no field outside a capacitor to cancel the field produced by a battery why do the electrons in the connecting wires stop flowing after the capacitor is charged? and if there is no field outside a capacitor, what causes it to act like an emf when the battery is removed and the capacitor is connected to a resistance?
On a second note, why does a battery have a field outside it if it is comparable to a capacitor? What causes the "driving force" aka e.m.f anyway (if there is no electric field, as Gauss's law so confusingly points out)?
One more thing : most texts/references describe energy change in charging of a capacitor by assuming you are taking a charge dq from one plate to another whereby the work done is V.dq. But this is not what actually happens while charging, is it? My question is how does a battery bring about this movement of charges? Since a capacitor has no field outside it (whether it is fully charged or not, I am assuming), why does the work done increase with the amount of charge already in it?
(Only to those having the Fundamentals of Physics 8th Edition: is it a completely reliable text? I'm asking this because the solution to Sample problem 24-7, pd 643 is, I think, wrong because they used an equation for a point charge rather than the one for a spherical capacitor (Eqn. 25-16), and I haven't understood a thing of this capacitor business)
Please help. I am so confused

(I am twelfth grader by the way, so any higher math would only confuse me more.....
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Thanks.
Either way, there is no field outside a capacitor, which is what all text books point out. But there is a whole host of problems with this analogy. Like, if there is no field outside a capacitor to cancel the field produced by a battery why do the electrons in the connecting wires stop flowing after the capacitor is charged? and if there is no field outside a capacitor, what causes it to act like an emf when the battery is removed and the capacitor is connected to a resistance?
On a second note, why does a battery have a field outside it if it is comparable to a capacitor? What causes the "driving force" aka e.m.f anyway (if there is no electric field, as Gauss's law so confusingly points out)?
One more thing : most texts/references describe energy change in charging of a capacitor by assuming you are taking a charge dq from one plate to another whereby the work done is V.dq. But this is not what actually happens while charging, is it? My question is how does a battery bring about this movement of charges? Since a capacitor has no field outside it (whether it is fully charged or not, I am assuming), why does the work done increase with the amount of charge already in it?
(Only to those having the Fundamentals of Physics 8th Edition: is it a completely reliable text? I'm asking this because the solution to Sample problem 24-7, pd 643 is, I think, wrong because they used an equation for a point charge rather than the one for a spherical capacitor (Eqn. 25-16), and I haven't understood a thing of this capacitor business)
Please help. I am so confused
Thanks.