I've had this thing on my to-do list for a few years now but every time I get close to taking action on it I have a meltdown and put it off for a while longer. It's similar to a last will & testament, but for non-material things. I want to record some talks for my daughters, talks that I would otherwise have with them in person at certain milestones of life, if ever I don't make it home one day. Talks about boys, about sex, about work ethic, about personal challenges, about being a good person, admonition about getting in trouble and encouragement to do better, happy birthday greetings, consolations on hard breakups, congrats/consolation about college acceptance letters, etc.
My brother in law was in a horrible motorcycle accident a few days ago. He's in the hospital in a coma on life support with a broken neck, broken limbs, brain damage, etc. If he ever wakes up he most likely won't walk and won't be the same person. This is putting some pressure on me to cross the action item off my to-do list. I'm at the point now where I'm either going to suck it up and do it, or decide against doing it at all. That's why I'm here, to ask if it's a good idea. Because I can't put myself in the mindset of an adolescent female who's lost her father.
If you were a 10 y/o girl and you won a spelling bee would you enjoy being rewarded with a congratulatory video from your dead dad?
If you were a 13 y/o girl would you respond well to a sex talk from your dead dad?
If you just turned 16, would a happy birthday recording from your dead dad played at your birthday enhance or detract from the experience?
Is it grandiose to assume that your words would be welcomed and relevant 10 years after someone has adapted to life without you? Is it selfish or narcissistic to want to assert the memory yourself into every key juncture of their lives? If you lost your father at a young age, is something you would want? Would it make their lives better or worse?
My brother in law was in a horrible motorcycle accident a few days ago. He's in the hospital in a coma on life support with a broken neck, broken limbs, brain damage, etc. If he ever wakes up he most likely won't walk and won't be the same person. This is putting some pressure on me to cross the action item off my to-do list. I'm at the point now where I'm either going to suck it up and do it, or decide against doing it at all. That's why I'm here, to ask if it's a good idea. Because I can't put myself in the mindset of an adolescent female who's lost her father.
If you were a 10 y/o girl and you won a spelling bee would you enjoy being rewarded with a congratulatory video from your dead dad?
If you were a 13 y/o girl would you respond well to a sex talk from your dead dad?
If you just turned 16, would a happy birthday recording from your dead dad played at your birthday enhance or detract from the experience?
Is it grandiose to assume that your words would be welcomed and relevant 10 years after someone has adapted to life without you? Is it selfish or narcissistic to want to assert the memory yourself into every key juncture of their lives? If you lost your father at a young age, is something you would want? Would it make their lives better or worse?