Lestraveled
- Joined May 19, 2014
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OK, the citizenship and the non-biological daughter issues do spin the ball in the other direction. Enjoy being single again.
I wanted to marry someone who was like me and thought I did but who she became was to type of person I normally have no interest in being around.
Been there, done that. Everybody changes over the years. Even if it isn't good or bad, just different, that difference changes the relationship. The cute things that attracted her become the things she despises most, like, "He's such a hard worker" changes to, "He's gone all the time and all I have to show for it is $150,000 a year which I spend as fast as he can make. He refuses to work less hours because we're flat broke, the dirty rat!"She was full of more hugs and kisses and lovey dovey crap than my daughter was which is just bewildering to me being for the last two years that woman has openly pointed out to my face and to anyone who would listen that she has zero respect for me and who I am, how I lived my life and what I do for work.
I don't get it.
That was a large part of it.Been there, done that. Everybody changes over the years. Even if it isn't good or bad, just different, that difference changes the relationship. The cute things that attracted her become the things she despises most, like, "He's such a hard worker" changes to, "He's gone all the time and all I have to show for it is $150,000 a year which I spend as fast as he can make. He refuses to work less hours because we're flat broke, the dirty rat!"
I dunno -- it's my observation that people don't really change, but, rather, become 'moreso' -- Sadly, it's mighty difficult to discern 'the shadow where the tree will fall' early on!Been there, done that. Everybody changes over the years.
I dunno -- it's my observation that people don't really change, but, rather, become 'moreso' -- Sadly, it's mighty difficult to discern 'the shadow where the tree will fall' early on!
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I have changed, but my core values remain. This is one of the interesting things about living for quite a while. My mother would say, "He just becomes more like himself." The difficulty is in the ability to perceive exactly what the core values are for any one particular person and thus know what he will boil down to being in the long run. On this aspect, we are in agreement.it's my observation that people don't really change,
I think everyone is changing a little bit every moment of their life. I know who I was in my teens is nowhere close to who I am now more who I was in my 20's or my 30's.I dunno -- it's my observation that people don't really change, but, rather, become 'moreso' -- Sadly, it's mighty difficult to discern 'the shadow where the tree will fall' early on!
Oh definitely! Growing up I had a number of what would be seen as very hot female cousins along with classmates who now 20 years later look like the ugly bus ran them over circled the block picked up a load of even uglier people and came back to run them over a second time!Many a vibrant young thing has gained 100 pounds and became a couch potato after the marriage.
I wasn't needling her, it was a real question because it is a commonly used word and there are articles about "moreso" and groups of people attempt to popularize certain words and get them into common usage. I've noticed @Hypatia's Protege 's proclivity to use compound words so I was wondering if she was on the bandwagon. Unfortunately, my post and its question were deleted so I may never know the answer.ps, I'm not going to needle you about a typo. (Bad Gopher!)
And I had a helluva fling with a 25 year old girl who apparently suffered the onset of paranoid schizophrenia.5 years ago my wife was my sexy well built SUV but in that 5 years my SUV turned into an old rusted out bus with a bad engine.
Sorry about the misinterpretation.I wasn't needling her,
And giving a mod the motivation to delete my well-crafted question.Sorry about the misinterpretation.
My wife went for the all out control over everything play while clearly showing she had no control over herself. Nothing happened without her review and consent and anything she decided to do was to never be questioned no matter how far fetched or ridiculous it was which of course being rational minded I need to have rational justification behind doing something or not doing something.And I had a helluva fling with a 25 year old girl who apparently suffered the onset of paranoid schizophrenia.
Seriously. She didn't just get suspicious or disenchanted, she actually became delusional.
If that doesn't qualify as changing, I don't know what does!
There an app for that. No no, I mean there is a drug for that. I used to call them my wife's happy pills. I was always more than willing to go to the pharmacy to pick up the refills.It sounds like your Ex is going through menopause. My wife is, and for a short time her hobby was to find fault with everything I said. I would describe something as "red" and she would correct me that it was "crimson". (Crap like that.) After a few (many) light hearted (painful) discussions (arguments) she stopped (does it less often).
My wife went for the, "all out control over everything" play while clearly showing she had no control over herself.
I don't know if menopause is the reason, but a person feeling internally out of control would naturally grasp for control of their external world.It sounds like your Ex is going through menopause.
Indeed it was a misspelling of "more so" (the price for using Google as a 'spell checker') -- and after all my 'finger wagging' on this postSo, did she mean, they become "more so" - meaning: the same kind but to a greater degree (aka "moreso")
Or, did she mean: morose: sullen and ill-tempered
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