monster_catfish
- Joined Mar 17, 2011
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As a footnote, old Hugh's runaway bride stopped running and is now back in his arms. That boyish charm works every time ha ha
You can thank Walt for that.I have studied the psychology of it quite a bit. The 45 year old still looking for Prince Charming is The Classic Example of why real marriages fall apart. Living in Fantasyland
I've been pondering your comments for a while now and I'm curious what you say about this:I have studied the psychology of it quite a bit.
They feel like they're crap so, subconsciously they seek out someone who will treat them like crap? Is that what you're saying?... no amount of treating them well causes them to change into the kind of person that will treat you well. They just go find a "bad boy" that will treat them as they deserve to be treated..
If a guy feels unconfident or emasculated, will he likely seek out a nagging control freak ball & chain for a partner?... that makes me look like a fool that needs to be used and abused....
a classic setup for a failed relationship. Honey, you be what I want you to be and everything will be fine. It's real simple, when a woman stops smiling, she no longer feels happy being with you, or happy about herself, both clear signs that the relationship is troubled.I projected upon her that she had similar values to mine, like, honesty, integrity, a willingness to act married when she was married, be a team member, and work toward our long term comfort. I was wrong. As long as I lived in the delusion that the Golden Rule works, I was as happy as if I had good sense, but I was wrong.
I'll argue that! Womens fantasies often involve the perceived "romance" side so they want you to get dressed up and take them out to dinner on a "romantic date" etc, all very much a chore for the husband. Why does the husband need to take his wife on a "date"? He's already got her!...
You can also be assured, that during most marriages, a womens' fantasy translates into a good time for hubby. But consider the opposite, a man's fantasy turns into a chore for the woman. It's those unreconcilable differences that often lead to distraction and breakdown.
Now that is a real truth. Man and woman are very different! Man are absolutely polygamous and women monogamous. The man is designed (programmed?) to seek out hot fertile young women and mate with them all, the woman is designed to capture the man and keep him supporting her and her offspring....
The biggest problem we have is not appreciating the differences between us.
you won't get an arguement from me. I include that angle in my #36 post;I'll argue that! Womens fantasies often involve the perceived "romance" side so they want you to get dressed up and take them out to dinner on a "romantic date" etc, all very much a chore for the husband. Why does the husband need to take his wife on a "date"? He's already got her!
It could very well be that monogamous relationships are destined for failure. That doesn't make a woman any less respectable than her male counterpart.And I discovered that half the women are board with thier overwieght, hockey howling, socially inept husbands.
I watch animal doccos as well as science ones. Apes and elephants both exist in patriarchal family groups with a central male. The fact that the boss male may like to roam a bit (as with elephants) or that the boss male might not be good enough to keep all his females under control (as with chimps) doesn't mean that family group is void.Sorry to argue, RB, but here I go:
Jane Goodall's research showed that female chimpanzees mate with as many males as possible in order to get more of them to provide for the offspring that might, or might not, be theirs. Several bird species do that, too.
There are several matriarchal mammal groups, including elephants, where the females and babies are a societal group and the males just drop by when needed as sperm donors.
Are you saying the earliest marriages (Jewish or not) were 1 man 1 woman? Have a read through the old testament. The only reason a man would have only 1 wife was if he was poor, a failure....
The first marriage contract was invented by the Jews.
Those are all staged for publicity.Hugh's last bride bailed out, like many before, and I'd guess he hasn't experienced a faithfull relationship in his life. Some don't care about relationships though. Hugh delivered to one of the primary needs of women, to be seen as attractive in the eyes of males. Being attractive to the right kind of male (capable of providing) is paramount for a woman.
I'm quite shocked actually by the general comments. I'd thought we'd moved further along. Is it the geek thing or the online thing?
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