Why always say stop looking for love and let it find you?

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  1. Greenstone

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    I have been looking a girlfriend as I never had one before. And when I was looking for it, I could not find it and people told me to stop looking. And they say If I keep on looking for it I will never find it. And there said it will only happen unexpectedly. So three years ago at the age of 24 I stopped looking for a girlfriend and got on with enjoying my life and today at age 27 it has still not happened and when I said looking or not looking either way does not happen, people say just enjoy my life and say if it meant to find me, it will. Love has still not found me at all and If i end up being single all my life, I will be so angry because life without relationship for me is so unfair. I be so angry if I end up being single for the whole of my life.
     
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  2. #12

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    Did you want to date an electronics nerd?
    If not, you are probably on the wrong website.
     
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  3. maxpower097

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    The fact is women today are completely different. I'm gonna make some recommendations that seem off the wall and bad but work. A younger friend taught these to me when I was your age.

    1st off women are very shallow and neive. Thats not saying all women but as a general rule younger women in our age bracket want a man that will buy them lots of stuff and they can walk all over, or a bad boy that will treat them like crap. Really depends on their daddy issues.

    2nd getting comfortable with women. This is an issue obvilously if you have never had a girlfriend. For this hit the stripclubs or gentlemens clubs. Yes its shunned by many people but strippers are a great way to build your confidence which is what its all about. You can't appear nervous or babble words with them. Try once a week or month goto a gentlemens club and buy a girl a drink and she'll talk with you and hang on you while you talk and she tries to talk you into a private dance. Thats up to you. If she's smoking I have no problem with that.

    3. Once you have confidence its like a lottery. All about numbers. If your to shy to approach women your not gonna do very well. So just start flirting with every women you see, from old ladies to younger girls. But the more you ask the better you odds are.

    4. Consider your standards. Are they to high? Are they too low? What kinds of a girls are you looking for. Sounds like a warm body will work at this point. Remember big girls need love too. Nothing wrong with that! Big girls have advantages, I won't go into them here, but the waters fine.

    5. You will usually meet a girl in a group. Make your moves subtle because her friends will get jelous and dog you. So get in, make her laugh, get the digits or take her somewhere else, then get out. As I've said before (Seperate her from the heard)

    No guarantees but this advice helped me tremendously.
     
  4. #12

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    I do have to agree with one point, I will never know how many women wanted to talk to me and never did because women tend to say nothing until you take the risk of approching them.
     
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  5. GetDeviceInfo

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    women haven't changed, they still ovulate once a month, accompanied by an increased sexual drive. For man however, the constant bombardment of refined images and the unrestricted access to pornagraphy has fed our delusions.

    The OP sounds angry, not a attribute that attracts. As mentioned, it's all a numbers game. Put your self in front of more women, and your chances increase proportionally. It helps if your happy. Women like happy.
     
  6. shortbus

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    Maybe him and Mathematics! should hang out together.:D:rolleyes:
     
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  7. maxpower097

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    ?????? You think the feminist movement has had no effect on women at all over the past 50 years? Cmon? Have you met women of the younger generation. They act more like men then women. Most of em throw it around like a paper boy and use it as an asset.
     
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    I converse with dancers as well, but not at the gentlemen's club (gentlemen my ass). One of my hobbies is dance, west coast swing preferred. I'm an older fellow, but the young gals are more than eager to partner up. I see some outstanding talent coming from some pretty intelligent gals. For many years I skied seriously. In the early days, not many young gals were on the hill. That all changed with the popularity of snowboarding, and to this day, I haven't met one that won't converse honestly about technique or style, and with thier natural grace, come some pretty radical styles. Yea, kids can be pretty mixed up, but it's thier right to passage.

    Never kid yourself though, female sexuality is a huge asset, always has been. I personally think the boys are getting dumber over it.

    If you consider the increasing numbers of single mothers, and the fact that a large portion of them live in poverty, please tell me about feminism.
     
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  9. MrChips

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    A woman wants a man who is honest, loving, caring, dependable and respectful.

    How is a woman going to find such a man when all a man wants is sex?

    Get with it guys!
     
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  11. maxpower097

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    May be its a geographic thing, were known for our gold diggers. But most of the eligable women 25-35 are straight up hoes. I run background checks on anyone I sleep with just to see what kind of person they are. You'd be very surprised what comes up. As for a woman wanting someone honest, loving , caring etc.... Thats pretty funny. There may be a few out there but not many. I've been thru the ops problems. I've seen whats on the market and it ain't great. Theres a reason they have 2 kids and the guys split. I actually did work at a real gentlemans club. We were ranked number 2 in the world and the NFL PA actually put out a letter stating NFL players and coaches were only allowed at our club during the superbowl. So naturally we constantly had people like Warren Sapp (Cheapest man alive, we ended up finally throwing him out by force and telling him never to come back) Vince Carter, the entire coaching staff of the Packers, and the biggest freaks of them all Ron Diaz from Ron and Ron, and Chris Berman (The guy on espn that goes rumbling stumbling boom bang bow!) He would constantly ask girls to come to his hotel. I won't post what Ron Diaz did but if you know who he is PM me and I'll tell you. Its a real gem.
     
  12. monster_catfish

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    Hey Max you have offered a lot of sound advice here, but the suggestion that BIG women need love made me shrink and turn pale.

    I'll go ahead and blame Hugh Hefner, but I'd sooner spend the evening with a dog-eared back-issue of Playboy magazine than ever comtemplate the needs of BIG women, talk less of becoming a hapless part of their solution to those needs.

    Your earlier reccommendation to "separate your prey from the herd" is worthy of framing to hang on the wall of all discerning single men, but I'll be forced to issue you a citation for your horrifying ruminations on big women.
     
  13. strantor

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    mrchips, you're too funny!

    My observations have been that, with the exception of only a few of females in my whole life (including my wife), only the fugly girls want those things you mentioned. Any girl with an ounce of attractiveness, and therefore an ounce of self respect, want that ounce of self respect beaten either verbally or physically or mentally by a some dude, any dude who's a dick. Doesn't matter if he's attractive or intelligent, needs nor redeeming qualities at all really, just so long as he treats her like crap, that's what she wants. She'll lie to your face about it too and tell you she wants a guy who is honest, loving, caring, dependable and respectful, but at the end of the day she goes home to an asshole. When she does finally find a guy who's honest, loving, caring, dependable and respectful, she won't fall for him - he'll be instantly in friend zone, and he'll be the guy who she tells all her intimitae secrets, like that she "wants a guy who's honest, loving, caring, dependable and respectful".
     
  14. maxpower097

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    Ok I have more Femanist evidence. I can't sleep so I'm all night watching TruTV and they did a FBI story on Racheal Wade who just happens to live 5 miles from me. She stabbed and killed her boyfriends other girlfriend. Anyways the FBI specialist says that Women on Women assaults are rising dramatically.

    About Fat chicks needin a lil lovin! I'm not talking morbidly obese chicks, just fat chicks, yah know 125lb-150lb. Or nothing with Cankles. Heres one for you noggins, I'm so convinced in the decline of women being ho's by the age of 30 and the amount of people they have slept with. I'll only date girls that are 18-25. But an 19 year old stripper's not half as used up as some 30 year old normal girl.
     
  15. maxpower097

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    More power to yah as long as you can get those pages open that are stuck together. ;)

    Also a tip, my buddy moved to S. Korea in 07, and says any westerner is a rock star. This is a guy that was a virgin through college. He said he's been single about 3 months since he moved. Plans on never coming back. It sure got me thinking I wouldn't mind living like a rockstar, so hopefully I'll be able to get over there at least for a month or two.
     
  16. monster_catfish

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    Now you're talking.

    I wanna go to Korea like NOW, and I'll burn one back-issue of Playboy magazine for every day my demands are not met.
     
  17. strantor

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    I didn't experience any rockstar recognition, and neither did any of the guys I worked with. I lived in Okpo and worked in Geoje Island shipyard for 3 months. I went to Seoul twice and several small cities in between. We were ignored usually, like the guy who walks with an exaggerated limp and everybody wants to stare but they don't want to be rude so they just don't look at all. In the clubs, anybody who throws money around is a star, no matter where they're from. That's pretty much universal.
     
  18. monster_catfish

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    Oh well, so much for my fantasy of squiring hot and willing Asian women without really having to try.

    Sounds like the Golden Rule is indeed universal, so I guess I better get back to panning for gold specks. Damn it, I knew I shouldn't have deep-sixed those magazines till I was sure of the alternative.
     
  19. maxpower097

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    I dunno what it is but I've heard the women in asia love western men from a lot of people. When were you there? Also he is a Tall fellow. That may have something to do with it. I can assure you he doesn't throw money around. He teaches english and has a psychiatry degree. Said he doesn't even own a TV. What I found very interesting was the renting procedures over there. You give the landlord a huge down payment and he then invests the down payment and that give you a cheaper rent. So say you want to rent a middle class 1 bedroom apt that would cost $1000 here. Over there you would give the landlord a security deposit of say $10,000 and your rent would be $700 a month. Or if you gave the landlord $25,000 you rent would be $400 a month. Or if you gave the landlord $100,000 your rent would be $25 a month. Then when you leave you get your deposit back. Is that crazy or what? I can only imagine the millions of lawsuits we'd have if we did that here.
     
  20. maxpower097

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    Don't give up hope, he was only in the city twice and was working for only 3 months. I'll go over,test the waters, and crate one up for yah and FedEx her to yah. Just weld and iron cage for her. :)
     
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