In your schematic (photo 3, post #19) there are two diodes acting as "OR" gates.... and that's why I have focused on the polarity of diode D1. I really do see it as an acid test. Maybe you would not mind, at this juncture, reviewing its function, as portrayed?
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If relay 4 is ON, relay coil A is activated by current to ground through the top diode. So if relay 4 is on, coil A must be on.
If relay 4 is OFF, then relay 6 can control coil A.
Basically the "OR" function of those two diodes saves them using relays with more contacts, so they can use a smaller and cheaper device for relay 4.
Regarding your other more complex circuit, I still think you need to start drawing out the schematic. You're obviously smart and have already put in a lot of work so this extra bit of work shouldn't take you too long.
All the control electronics seems to run from the +21v DC supply from the bridge rectifier. So get a bit of paper, put a horiz line along the top for "+21v rail", a horiz line along the bottom for "ground rail" and start drawing out the branches. Each branch goes from +21v to ground, through whatever relays and transistors you have.
That is basically the way a machine's contactor diagram is drawn and it can make a nasty complex rats nest into an easy to understand diagram.