The caps in post #19 are too small. The one in post #20 should be okay, depending upon the relay coil resistance.
The hold time is approximately equal to one RC time-constant.
Thus for a one-second blinker with 50% duty-cycle, the time constant of interest is 1/2 second.
For a 100Ω (estimated) coil resistance the required capacitance would be 0.5s / 100Ω = 5mf or 5,000μF.
As I said you likely need to experiment some to get the correct delay. You could use 2700μF caps and connect them in parallel to adjust the capacitance (the values add together in parallel).
Either diode is okay.
Here's a resistor assortment with that includes 1Ω
The hold time is approximately equal to one RC time-constant.
Thus for a one-second blinker with 50% duty-cycle, the time constant of interest is 1/2 second.
For a 100Ω (estimated) coil resistance the required capacitance would be 0.5s / 100Ω = 5mf or 5,000μF.
As I said you likely need to experiment some to get the correct delay. You could use 2700μF caps and connect them in parallel to adjust the capacitance (the values add together in parallel).
Either diode is okay.
Here's a resistor assortment with that includes 1Ω