Every point you made is counter to the literature I've seen, which is certainly not exhaustive. I have no personal experience to challenge either side of the argument, but the published analyses make sense.
Starch itself does not absorb much microwave energy. But starch contains about 10% moisture that accounts for the easy heating. If you dry your starch to bone dry first - overnight at 60°C will do it pretty well - you'll find it heats much less readily.
If I get time this evening I'll collect the data on ice melting and prove that one. Another fun and easy experiment would be to put two identical, insulated glasses of water into the microwave, one as cold as possible and the other tepid. Heat for 2 minutes and measure the ∆T of the two glasses. The warm one will have gained more than the cold one.
Starch itself does not absorb much microwave energy. But starch contains about 10% moisture that accounts for the easy heating. If you dry your starch to bone dry first - overnight at 60°C will do it pretty well - you'll find it heats much less readily.
If I get time this evening I'll collect the data on ice melting and prove that one. Another fun and easy experiment would be to put two identical, insulated glasses of water into the microwave, one as cold as possible and the other tepid. Heat for 2 minutes and measure the ∆T of the two glasses. The warm one will have gained more than the cold one.