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Discussion in 'Off-Topic' started by shankbond, May 3, 2008.

  1. shankbond

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    guys, i feel terrible ,when i was said that i had poor communication skills.

    it was on thursday,my project seminar ,where i wasn't even allowed to speak ,and without hearing my seminar teachers say your communication skills are poor,how embarrasing how disgusting,they simply don't know how much i have worked?
    they keep on interrupting me saying you have poor skills

    i feel kind of deceived.


    ah!!! just wanted to share with u people ,after all this is the community i love most.
     
  2. thingmaker3

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    Look on the bright side. You can work to improve your communications skills, but your instructors will be ugly forever.:D
     
  3. Papabravo

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    I haven't noticed an abundance of sympathy on these forums. You might have better luck with a dog. I recommend Basset Hounds; you can't find a better friend than a rescued Basset.
     
  4. SgtWookie

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    The next time that happens (if there is a next time), simply acknowledge it the first time, and ask if the discussion can progress now that their assertion has been acknowledged.

    If it comes up again in the same conversation, ask them why are they wasting time with a point that has already been acknowledged, as they should know that improvement in such things involves time and practice. By them belaboring the point, and not allowing the conversation to proceed beyond that "dead horse" is simply wasting everyone's time.

    Throw it right back in their face. And don't be too nice about it, either. ;)
     
  5. shankbond

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    hehehe

    good one:D:cool:
     
  6. Dave

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    By not giving you an opportunity to express yourself on your work, it says a lot more about them than they try to say about you. Have pity on them if anything. If you want to learn English (like learning anything else) then stick at it, you'll get there in the end.

    Think of it this way, you can communicate on here in English; whereas the vast majority of us (myself included) would not be able to communicate with you in your native language - that is something in itself to be very pleased (proud) about.

    Dave
     
  7. circuitashes

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    In addition to this community, i think you should also share your problems with a friend you are in physical contact with.
     
  8. cumesoftware

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    What can I say...teachers. I don't know if that is your case, but in Portugal, most of the university teachers are "loosers" in other jobs inside their area of "vocation". Since they are "loosers", they dedicate themselves to teaching. Of course that means that they are not made for the job. I think that might be your case. They picked on your communication skills, but they could pick on something else. It is just a pretext. Don't worry. Just ignore them about that matter.

    On the reverse of the coin, we have excellent teachers that like to teach.
     
  9. thingmaker3

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    We have a saying in America:

    Those who can - do. Those who can't - teach. Those who can't teach, run for office.

    Obviously, there are some fine teachers in the world. I've been quite privileged to learn from some of the best of them. But there is indeed a much high tolerance for incompetence in academia than is found in industry.
     
  10. shankbond

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    may be you people are right
     
  11. cumesoftware

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    I'm amazed! There are things that are universal.

    Of course, in Portugal, instead of running for office, ignorants usually run for the parliament. All ignorants and pure theorists of crap are there!
     
  12. Mark44

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    I've heard a variant of the saying: Those who can - do. Those who can't - teach. Those who can't teach, teach teachers.
     
  13. thingmaker3

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    Mark44 - you are of course one of the exceptions to the rule, are you not?:)
     
  14. Mark44

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    I'd like to think so!:)
     
  15. theamber

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    I think you have to work harder and demostrate them the next time that you have better communication skills than they do. Not as a revanche for making you feel bad but to make you much better. The best thing you can have in life is a challenge and fight for it even if it takes all your life, that is the essence of life man!. Do things because they are hard and not because they are easy. You may have been deceiving yourself, remember that they are your teachers. Just work much harder next time there is nothing wrong with critizing some one but don't lie. Look at it this way;just imaging that they told you that you were great when in reality you were not. There is always room to improve. Don't get mad get even and demostrate them and yourself that you can have fanatically great communications skills.
     
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