Enthusiasm After Age 35.

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  1. AlphaDesign888

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    Is it just me or is it normal to be on an decline of motivation after age 35?

    Albert Einstein said that ...

    If man has not contributed something to science by age 30, then he never will!
     
  2. MrChips

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    I think it is just you. I'm way over 30 and just can't seem to stop finding new things to do.
     
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  3. Bernard

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    My git up & go is about gone, but then I'm only pushing 88.
     
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  4. DerStrom8

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    Sounds like a mid-life crisis, granted a bit early. It's normal--it's the time of your life when you look back, you realize that you have not achieved much and begin to wonder what the point of it was. The best thing you can do is to try new things. Go out, meet new people, make new friends, try new experiences. Go on a vacation during which you do something, and don't just relax. Or, you can take it to the extreme and go skydiving or storm chasing (under the supervision of experts, of course). The important thing is to try things you wouldn't normally try, to get a new outlook on life. It's a great way to refresh your mind and help you regain your enthusiasm for living.

    Not quite sure if this is the kind of response you were looking for, but thought I'd throw it out there :p

    Regards,
    Matt
     
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  5. AlphaDesign888

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    Yes perhaps I need an break. Jump in the car and drive around Australia perhaps.
    I cannot seem to get out of first gear anymore. Nothing really inspires me. My passion is all gone. I see everything as an chore. Everything seems like one huge effort.

    I am on some drugs at the moment which maybe contributing to the problem. I take nitrazepam and escitalopram plus an anti-pyschotic drug called invega.
    This world has sent me a bit bAnaNAs if you know what I mean.

    The drugs do help, so it is not an option to stop taking them.
     
  6. Lestraveled

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    age 30.......are you kidding??? You still have baby fat at age 30. You are just getting warmed up. The older you are the better you are.

    AlphaDesign, get out of bed, kick your self in the BUTT, shake off that negative attitude, and never never F...ing give up.

    My sister has to take some of the drugs you do, her speech is slurred, but she still doesn't quit . (She is a pain in the a.. sometimes too.)
     
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  7. AlphaDesign888

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    Well, actually I am fat now. I weigh 103Kg. I used to weigh 65Kg.
    I just don't seem to see the point of things anymore.

    What am I missing?
     
  8. DerStrom8

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    Adventure!
     
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  9. DerStrom8

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    Like I said, try something new. You just have to prove to yourself that you have not seen everything; that there is always more to learn, more to do!
     
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    Alpha,
    I don't think there are any experts on this forum that can help you with this problem but it sounds to me like you may be experiencing some form of depression. I say this because I have watched people close to me go through this and it can be very treatable if you can talk to the right people. Have you seen any specialists at all? I am over 50 and I wake up each day looking forward to what the day will bring and my goal is to learn something new every day. Read a book, meet new people, travel, whatever you want to do but what you are describing need to be addressed by experts. I hope you will seek professional help and always remember that even after a bad storm, the sun always comes up. Good luck. I hope you find what you need to make your life happier.
     
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  11. AlphaDesign888

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    I can't go too far. My father has emphysema. My mother cannot drive anymore.
    What if he needs to go to an hospital?

    I feel obligated to my parents. Well not just obligated..
    I do love my mummy & daddy.
     
  12. DerStrom8

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    I understand, and I applaud you for taking care of your parents. It's becoming less and less common these days...

    But you don't have to go anywhere exotic, necessarily. You mentioned going for a drive around part of Australia (I'm assuming that's where you live). Drives are always fun--just go exploring and see what you can find!

    Another hobby which I have taken up is metal-detecting. Finding buried relics has a unique sort of attraction and whether you find anything or not, it's still a fun experience. You'd be surprised what you might find in your own back yard! It's best in the woods, of course, if you have access to wooded areas.

    Other options include finding a project that you can work on daily--something you can look forward to doing. Or you could take up writing. Whether you're good at it or not, writing (regardless of the genre) can be very fulfilling.

    Just a couple ideas to keep you thinking :)

    Regards,
    Matt
     
  13. Lestraveled

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    Is your loss of ambition coincident with a change of doctors or meds?

    Up until two years ago my sister was fine, she is a recovering alcoholic, in a program, and counted her sober days in the years. She had a doctor and psychiatrist that would treat her and accept what ever she could pay. Then she got accepted into medicare. The institutional doctors loaded her up with meds that sent her into an......episode. They have kept her wacked out ever since. We are working it.

    Alpha, keep your friends close, especially the ones that P*** you off.
     
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  16. AlphaDesign888

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    I have an excellent doctor which I see monthly. Sorry to hear about your sister.
     
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    AlphaDesign may I suggest learning to play the guitar as a pastime that will challenge and reward you every single day you pick up the instrument.

    For inspiration the internet is awash with Youtube videos of living and past masters of the art, ranging from Eric Clapton to Robben Ford to Jimi Hendrix, and, when you start to figure out just a couple of the licks you hear on those videos, there is a real sense of accomplishment, along with a sober realization that the more you learn to play that most exasperating instrument, the more you discover you don't know yet.

    With just a couple of chords under your belt, you an play along with literally dozens of songs, particularly if they are easy Country songs. Yes sir, if you haven't one already, pick up an old box guitar, sit out on the back porch when the moon lights the night, play your heart out, and feel those worries melt away.
     
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  18. AlphaDesign888

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    The guitar isn't me.

    In fact I do not really know what is for me anymore.

    I find electronics & technology boring now. So over it all.
     
  19. mitko89

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    I am 24, and I such as you want to keep a good image of myself thinking I'm a genious (as the guys from mensa said), yet everyday you see at work people that are doing much better than you. Contribution to science... do you really need that? What will it give to you? Fame, money, who do you want to impress with this?
    You seem like a man who always pushes himself and can never reach satisfaction, which makes you feel sad and depressed. What is your job? Do you like it? At 35 you are at the top, you have the experience and still have energy to do things. About your family, I see my parents taking care of my grantparents, I will sound cold hearted, but my father litteraly wasted like half his life taking care of his elders. Me and my brother pretty much grow on our own, which I think is not right. No generation shall be sacrificed for the sake of the previous one. What your parents want for sure is you to be happy, if you are not, you are failing them and yourself.
    Don't whine about weight, if you pull yourself together you can be fit as an athlete in 6 months. I find myself going out of shape too. If you want I can make a diet and exercise plan for both of us and share progress and motivation.
    Force yourself to be happy and you will actually be. This is one of the few things that you use the output before actually having it.
     
  20. AlphaDesign888

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    I'm probably more like 50 mentally.
     
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