The order of the expressions in the verbal description, denotes the order of operation. Hence, the difference of 4 and k would be 4-k. Since the 4 comes first in the description, it comes first in the expression. If the statement was the difference of k and 4, the expression would be k-4.
If the difference between the two is desired but the order of subtraction is not important I would write it down as the distance between two points on the real line.
That is;
d(4,k)=|4-k| (k is an element of the real numbers)
where |4-k|=|k-4|,
verball [the absolute value of (4-k)]=[the absolute value of (k-4)]
Using this will give you a positive value of the distance between the two, which in the case of real numbers will give you the difference.