I don't know that I've seen this claim as the conventional wisdom or even an actual claim (that you can't use superposition in circuits with dependent sources). Every text I have ever seen that covers superposition explicitly covers how to deal with dependent sources.Contrary to conventional wisdom, it is interesting that one can find the Thevenin voltage using superposition. It is often argued one cannot use superposition in circuits where dependent sources are included.
But I've certainly seen lots and lots of people do it wrong. The most common mistake is to try to "turn off" the dependent sources while the analysis is done for the others and then do one analysis for each dependent source in which that source is the only one that is "turned on". Even worse, they try to find the equivalent resistance by turning off all the sources, including the dependent ones, failing to realize that the dependent sources will respond to external stimuli if that stimulus produces a non-zero control signal.